Thursday, April 17, 2014

Daily Sex Discussion #520: Scratching?

Daily Sex Discussion #520

Do you enjoy scratching or being scratched during sex?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Tell Me Something Good: MAY Sexy Storytelling Slam

Tell Me Something Good: MAY Sexy Storytelling Slam

Wednesday, May 7
at 8:00pm - 11:55pm

Gladstone Hotel
1214 Queen Street West, Toronto

Inspired by Bawdy Storytelling in California, Tell Me Something Good (@TellMeToronto) brings sexy storytelling to Toronto. Samantha Fraser (@nympsam) and Sophie Delancey (@sophiedelancey) are your lovely co-hosts every month for your storytelling pleasure. Tell Me Something Good is your opportunity to share short stories of sexual glory, gaffes, and growth for the chance to win sexy prizes, or if you'd rather not share, feel free to just sit back and be entertained.

This month we are returning to the Melody Bar at the Gladstone Hotel. Also, this event will be free once again, so make sure you show up early to grab your seat.

Doors at 8 with some fun warm-up activities, including Truth or Dare. Storytelling kicks off at 9 pm sharp!

How it works for Interested Storytellers:
You sign up and we'll toss names into a hat to pick up to 10-15 storytellers for slots of up to 5 minutes each. There are points for engaging with the audience (so don't just read the whole thing!) and it must be a true story!

This month's theme is Sexual Empowerment. We share a lot of stories at TMSG that are funny or sometimes cringe-worthy, but this month we're digging a little deeper to get to those moments that have really been pivotal in your sexual journey. Do you have a story about body pride? Acceptance? Finding community? What has empowered you along the way? Where has your inspiration come from? (Note: Stories can obviously still be funny and/or cringeworthy!) ;)

We'll have an esteemed panel of judges who will start the night off with a few of their own stories and then rank each entry to choose our winners at the end of the night.

May's Judges are:

Wil McLean of Sybian Toronto
Caitlin K. Roberts of I'd Tap That and To Be a Slut
Filmmaker, host, columnist and writer Buffy Childerhose

*** Important note: We strive on making this a safe(r) event. We will not tolerate homophobia, racism, transphobia, ablism, agism, misogyny, whorephobia, slut shaming, fat-phobia, or any other jerky behaviour or language. Please make sure that your stories are respectful so that everyone can feel included and have a good time! And in the words of Samantha's first crush, Wil Wheaton, don't be a dick! ***


- Wednesday, June 4th
- Wednesday, July 2nd

From Raw to Real: Sexual Economies in the Age of Barebacking

From Raw to Real: Sexual Economies in the Age of Barebacking

Friday, May 9
2:00pm - 5:00pm

Room 100A, Jackman Humanities Building
170 St. George Street

Convened by Ricky Varghese and Christopher Smith

Facilitated by Damon Young

Speakers include:

"Black Cumjoy: Pleasure and a Racist Virus"
Rinaldo Walcott

"Does the Barebacker Exist? And Why it Doesn't Matter"
Christien Garcia

"From “Booty Bandits” to “DL Brothas”: Queer Delays, and the Failure(s) of Sexual Categorization"
Christopher Smith

"Viral Futurity: “Measure B,” Poz IDs, and Spreadable Media"
Evangelos Tziallas

"Living and Dying in the Future Anterior"
Ricky Varghese

"Barebacking Bataille: From Sexual Economy to General Economy"
John Paul Ricco

Unrealistic Porn Positions?

I can't decide if this is
a) funny
b) not funny
c) a bit judgey
d) judgey because of the publication and the audience it is aimed at
e) slightly offensive
f) all of the above
g) none of the above

Teching Out Your Sex Life

Crave offers up 3 cool options for you to move your sex life beyond flesh and blood with Couple, MakeLoveNotPorn (yay!) and Kama XCitra.

Sex and tech has been on my mind a fair bit lately. As someone who is not an early adopter, I can't say I jump on these and other new options right away, but I am keen to watch how they develop.

Porn for Women as Sexual Stimulus or Social Agenda?

Very interesting article here that challenges some growing ideas about what porn for women should be, what women want and who makes the rules of that divide.

I think these arguments are a bit premature. Feminist or female-oriented porn is too young a genre to have taken enough root in study. Maybe women prefer male-gaze porn at this point because they haven't been exposed to a female-gaze alternative. Or maybe that is what they like. I think we need to wait until feminist porn has become interwoven into the porn universe. A telling stat to back that up? Millennials are watching the most porn. And they've coming into the genre without being exposed to exclusively male-created porn.

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Daily Sex Discussion #519: Beach?

Daily Sex Discussion #519

Have you ever done the classic: sex on a beach?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Fetishes and Bunnies—Long Weekend at Oasis

Events This Week to put Some Spring in Your Step

Oasis Aqualounge, your getaway in the city!

Please Mind the Maintenance

With the warmer weather fast approaching, that means summer is just a hop, skip and a jump away, we pride oursleves on offering the very best facilities for our guests, so Oasis has decided to take this time (while the seasons are in transition) to refinish our pool. As a result the Oasis pool will be closed from Monday April 28th-Thursday May 1st. We do apologize for any inconvenience this may cause and greatly appreciate your understandinghowever it is necessary maintenance.

If you visit the club during the days the pool will be closed, check in at the pay station as Oasis will be offering some amazing discounts for your next visit. We'll also be offering some extra workshops, live performances, and more during the days the pool will be closed. Please check the website for more details.

Weekend Highlight

Playboy Bunny Night

Saturday April 19

Join us for ‘Playboy Bunny’ night, just in time for Easter weekend!

Any guests who brings in a Playboy magazine (the more vintage, the better!), will be entered into a draw to win a ‘Easter Weekend Gift Pack’ which will include Spring-theme prizes and a Couple’s Weekend Pass to Oasis Aqualounge.

Chocolates and goodies will be hidden around the club to encourage a Easter Egg Hunt! Prizes for Best Bunny and Best Hugh Heffner!

The stunning and seductive Delicia Pastiche will be entertaining us with a sexy bunny burlesque routine. Show at 11:00pm.

Bunny ears will be provided to guests while supplies last, so arrive early and grab a pair for you and your date.
Women and couples welcome! Oasis Aqualounge will be open from 11:00am-3:00am. Party begins at 9:00pm.

From all of us at Oasis Aqualounge, we will you a Hoppy Easter!

Weekly Favourites & More

Hot Springs 

Wednesday April 16
Safer Us, Safer You

April is STD awareness month and we would like to offer those who are sexually active to join Hassle-Free ClinicHIV Awareness discussion in the Upper Red Bar at 8pm.

Hassle-Free Clinic will be offering onsite testing in the upstairs private room from 8:30pm to 11pm. The test is anonymous and paper work will be provided upon request. You must sign up for an appointment, this is a first-come, first-serve basis. The appointment will take roughly 10-20 minutes. Please look for Miss F (in her nurse outfit) to sign up. If you need further informationMsKitty, who will also dressed in a more fetish style nurse's outfit, will be around the club to host/assist the event.

As always Hot Springs will feature the following:

-All spa facilities & ammenities available

-All day and evening security on the third floor/play areas. Single men must be chaperoned by another female(s) or couple(s).

-Massage available in the evenings $1/minute. Suggested time: 20 minutes

-DJ Ella Vation 10pm to late

Club hours: 11am to 3am. $50 Single gentlemen, $50 couples, always free for single ladies.

First Taste

Thursday April 17

Join MsKitty for a tour of Oasis & an introduction to the club and discussion of the lifestyle from 8pm to 10pm. M/F Couples $20 (tour & Q&A), $60 additional to stay afterwards or $20 voucher to return another night. Single ladies free tour, $20 to stay. Couples and women only please. Club hours: 11am-3am.

Special Feature:

Burlesque Class with Esther De Ville

Learn from the best! Join Esther DeVille from 9pm-10pm in the Oasis dungeon to learn the tools (and some tricks) of the trade. This week focuses on tassel twirls and booty bounce. Esther just received a gold medal in tassel twirling at the Burlypick's International Competition-Canadian Regionals, this show pony will show you how it's done! Wear something comfortable and sexy. Classes are $15 to attend.

Fetish Friday

April 18

Get your kink on every third Friday of the month at Oasis Aqualounge. This event is the longest running fetish night at Oasis Aqualounge. Break out the PVC, latex & leather! Hosted by Northbound Leather & Alex Dark.9pm-3am. $80 Couples/Pansexual, $20 women.

Staycation Sunday

Evening: April 20

Daytime:The perfect destination getaway right in the heart of the city! Indulge in paradise without having to pack a suitcase. Oasis offers a beautiful outdoor pool in a private court yard where you can swim, sip a cocktail and soak up some rays. The indoor hot tub, sauna and upper floor themed play rooms are available for even more indulgence. Couples and woman only please. Club open 11am-7pm. Couples $50 Ladies $20.

Genesis Fetish Party "Burlesque"

Evening: Sunday April 20

Toronto’s hottest fetish party is back on Sunday March 16th. Party begins at 8:00pm. Tonight’s theme “Burlesque.” Featuring the dazzling diva Fionna Flauntit, "The higher the heel, the closer to heaven" Marilyn St. Evans & the lovely Luckee 13, live burlesque show11pm.

Oasis Aqualounge is open from 11:00am-7:00pm for Staycation Sunday.

Sass After Class featuring SPIT Magazine Play Party

Monday April 21

Go ahead skip class, play hooky and be naughty… Sass after Class Monday is our event for students and offers wallet-friendly fun at Oasis Aqualounge!

Single men over 35 please visit Hot Springs every Wednesday or check out our special Tuesday night events.
Women $5, men under 35 with student ID $20, men under 35 *without student ID $50.

Please note: couples over 35 are welcome to visit Sass After Class Mondays, from11:00am-7:00pm. After 8:00pm, this weekly feature is for women and men 35 yrs. and under only please.

Tonight at 9pm: I’d Tap That will be hosting their third play party at Oasis Aqualounge. This will be a fantastic event that welcomes the usual Sass After Class demographic, along with some very special guests.

Admission: $15 Men + Women (cis & trans) are all welcome (ages 19-35)
We encourage our CrushTO/Puppy Love crowd to come out!
Single, taken, queer, gay, straight, bi, trans, lesbian, questioning and kinky. This event is for all sexual orientations and all gender identities.

There will be a live porn shoot happening on premises for The Spit Magazine, in a sectioned off room. If you would like to participate, please contact Jesse @

There will be safety people who will be easily identified.
Please read the Id Tap That mission statement before attending.

Oasis Aqualounge is open from 11am-3am.

Capes, Cake & Comic Book Heros

Tuesday April 22

Shameless Shayne will be hosting a birthday bash onTuesday April 22nd, from 8:00pm-3:00am.

The night promises to be full of capes, cake and comic book heroes!

Single men, women and couples are all welcome to celebrate ‘comic-style’ and enjoy an evening of performances, champagne specials and geek chic! Purchase a cape with the proceeds going to The Rose Centre (

Performers will include: El Toro, Pastor Morgan, Mizzy Trasher and Superhero Balloons by Baldini!

Single men/couples- $50. Women free before 11:00pm-$20 after 11:00pm

Oasis Aqualounge will be open from 8:00pm-3:00am
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"Erect That Transmitter!" Continue to Support Sex City and CIUT!

Thank you very much to those who have already made donations to the CIUT 89.5FM "Erect that Transmitter" campaign (okay, we dubbed it that on Sex City).

We had a fun and fruitful show last night...a rare instance of all four hosts in the studio at one time. And special thanks go out to Kate and Mark for working the board and our guests! Shawn Syms, Sophie Delancey, Judy Virago and Dainty Box were all fantastic.

Take a listen and DONATE DONATE DONATE

We need to keep this good sexy energy going. We need to make this transmitter happen, we need to make community radio happen, we NEED to keep sex topics on community radio.

Alluring-Art Photography: Evolving Erotic

Erotic images, in many forms, have taken off in so many ways, becoming embraced and enjoyed. In the midst of this broader acceptance, artists such as photographer Richard Lyons are seeking out and developing new technologies to further push erotica to its sexiest potential. In order to publish his innovative Alluring-Art Photography – Digital Erotic Anthology, Richard has set up a campaign and I spoke with him to learn more about his art, embracing cinemagraphs and his plans for this collection.

What inspired you to explore erotic photography?

I've always loved the female form. The curves and contours of their bodies. It was inspiring and when I got into photography I gravitated towards the erotic space. To me, the female body is so much more interesting to photograph then say landscape or lifestyle photography. I love creating that wow image,that makes people want more, and working in erotic photography I can achieve this!

How did you discover cinemagraphs and how did you go about learning the techniques?
Simply by searching through the internet. I'm always looking for new photos, styles, and genres to see what others are creating and when I came across the cinemagraph it captured me. the technique requires you to first start with a video file. You shoot your shot for about 10 seconds. Enough to get the motion you want to see later. Then Open Photoshop and import your video frames to layers. From there you'll create a mask for one layer that will keep the motion and leave the background still.

How can this technology "evolve erotica?"
Using the cinemagraph style, you can take advantage of the subtle movement and make it tell the story or evoke an emotion. Like the skirt blowing in wind to reveal her bottom or a fire's warm glow dancing in and around her body, revealing and hiding her more sexual side.

What is the typical reaction of people seeing this work for the first time?
So far I've had a pretty strong reaction to it. Fortunately people can first relate it to an animated gif so its not shocking to them. They see the subtle movement and want to see whats next! Which is why i'm currently working on this project.

If you could have one person pose for an erotic cinemagraph, who would it be?
That's a great question, and one I'd honestly haven't thought about yet. Off the top of my head I would say a top model or actress which would lead to huge publicity. For the love of the art, I would say the girl next door. I feel our society is closed in about how we view erotica. If we could get it out to the public, using the girl next door,showing them its nothing to be afraid of, people would be more open to enjoying it instead of hiding it.

What plans do you have for future work?
I havent thought to far ahead for future work as I've been so busy trying to make this project a success. My hope is this project does well and people want more!

Erotica Publisher Sweetmeats Press Funding Campaign!

Sweetmeats Press is hoping to take erotica to the next level. Consider helping this great new publishing house by funding their campaign.

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Daily Sex Discussion #518: Teacher?

Daily Sex Discussion #518

Did you have a sexual 'teacher?'

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Elust #57 Out Now!

 Elust #57

Photo courtesy of Cammies on the Floor
Welcome to Elust #57 -

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #58? Start with the rules, come back May 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

I’ve Got 99 Problems

Vasectomy Blues

I’ve always wanted to call myself queer.

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Aoyama Yuki and My Very First Times

I don’t know how to be happy

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

*You really should consider adding your popular posts here too*

Close Enough

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Writing About Writing

Openings and Grabbing Your Reader

TMI Tuesday: April 15, 2014: Vacation Style

TMI Tuesday: April 15, 2014: Vacation Style

In many areas around the world, vacation season is approaching. This week’s TMI Tuesday asks you to tell us about your vacation style. Thank you to Virtual Sin for the questions.

1) What mode of transportation do you prefer for vacation: a) car, b) bus, c) train, d) cruise ship, e) airplane, f) other?
Anything, any way...just please somehow, someone grant me a vacation

2) What baggage strategy do you use when flying: a) carry-on only, b) gate check excess bags, c) check baggage, d) ship bags ahead, e) other?
carry-on and check baggage
3) What is your accommodation strategy: a) luxury hotel, b) bed and breakfast c) cheap hotel/motel, d) stay with family/friends, e) camping or RV, e) other?
different ones, usually cheap, sometimes camping, airbnb...

4) What world-famous places have you visited on vacation? These can be commercial tourist attractions (Disney World), museums (The Louvre), historic places (Gettysburg), natural wonders (Yellowstone, Yosemite), or anything else?
I think I went to Disney when I was a kid...I've seen Loch Ness...Niagara Falls doesn't really count, since I grew up near there...does Bourbon Street count?

5) Where do you really, really want to go someday?
Seriously, anywhere. 

6) What you would you like to go back to see again?
More of New Orleans

Bonus: Have you ever had sex with someone you just met while on vacation? Tell us about it.

Bonus, Bonus: While vacationing, have you ever had sex in a moving car, bus, train, or airplane?
Does jerking off in an airplane bathroom count?


How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link totmituesdayblog from your website!

Happy TMI Tuesday!

Monday, April 14, 2014

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Daily Sex Discussion #516: Watch or Be Watched?

Daily Sex Discussion #516

Would you rather watch or be watched?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Call for Submissions: Men And Women Of The Military

Call for Submissions

Men And Women Of The Military
Editor: F. Leonora Solomon
Publisher: Ravenous Romance

We are looking for erotic stories featuring our men and women of the military. M/F, M/M , F/F and any of its variations are welcome. Stories should be 2500-5000 words, 12 pt Times New Roman, double-spaced and in an attached Microsoft Word document. Send submissions Payment is a flat fee of $25. Non-exclusive rights for term of copyright — print, electronic, world, all languages. The deadline is June 1.

Saturday, April 12, 2014

Sex News! I love it! April 13, 2014


Being a Sex Worker in Academia Who Doesn’t Care About Empowerment

Shedding Light on the Myths About Women Who Have a Lot of Sex

Why Do So Many Leftists Want Sex Work to Be the New Normal?

Shannon, Bruckert & Shaver: Canada must set sex workers free

If privileged women were as likely to do survival sex work as they are likely to get an abortion, there would be no feminist debate on sex work

Joan Bakewell: Violence has intruded into sex

Our Kind of Sex

Five Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Casual Sex

Peter MacKay promises new prostitution bill before summer

The dating game

Fewer differences than expected between girls’ and boys’ sexual experiences

For Ladies Who Cannot Have Sex

10 Reasons You Should Be Having A LOT More Morning Sex

Neither Female Nor Male

Corporate Censorship: Keeping Your Erotic Books Off Retailer Hit Lists

Insight into HIV transmission risk when the viral load is undetectable and no condom is used

Porn producer: I wish my films were shown in schools

The 10 biggest lesbian sex myths purported by those who have never had lesbian sex

Call For Submissions: Baseball Stories

Call For Submissions

Baseball Stories
Editor: F. Leonora Solomon
Publisher: Ravenous Romance

The boys of summer are back in town and you know what that means! Ravenous Romance is looking for stories of America's favorite pastime...well America's favorite two pastimes! Send us your sizzling hot baseball stories: M/F, M/M , F/F and any of its variations are welcome. Stories should be 2500-5000 words, 12 pt Times New Roman, double-spaced and in an attached Microsoft Word document. Send submissions to Payment is a flat fee of $25. Non-exclusive rights for term of copyright — print, electronic, world, all languages. The deadline is June 1.

Daily Sex Discussion #515: Foreplay?

Daily Sex Discussion #515

What is your favourite foreplay activity?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Friday, April 11, 2014

The Latest Sex With the Lights On!

My friends at Met Another Frog have released their latest Sex With The Lights On podcast and yours truly drops in with a little bit of sex news in my monthly Gettin' Around segment.

Daily Sex Discussion #514: Hanky Code?

Daily Sex Discussion #514

Do you flag any specific hankies (as per the hanky code)?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

What is in a name, or, er, URL for a sex blog?

So, just as I decide that I need to take this blog to the next level and hopefully, possibly, make a few nickels from it here and there, I discover that I should have tried to sit on a long time ago. Of course, it is already taken.

So, what url should I go for?

I'm not greatly fond of any of those...but something must be picked.

Maybe something entirely different?

Any and all thoughts will be appreciated and considered!

Sex Stuff: 50 Shades! The Musical—The Original Parody

I'm not afraid to admit that I don't think 50 Shades of Grey is horrible. I'm not going to say it is fantastic, but I think the book is a watershed item in culture, it had a definite (predominantly positive) effect on growing sexual understanding and awareness and was (in spots) fairly hot.

Of course, when something is popular or controversial—or both!—inevitable copycats come along. Personally speaking, the copycat I like best isn't really a copycat at all. Instead, I love parodies! Despite the fact that most parodies are shallow and limited, I still love finding comedic, witty, clever retellings of "classic" stories.

So after listening to my colleague Bryen's interview with Emily Doreezas, Writer/Producer/Touring Director of 50 Shades! The Musical—The Original Parody on Sex City, I set out to see the show because it sounds funny and slick.

And it certainly is!

Because so many parodies really are lacking, I didn't have a lot of hope. I hate to admit it, but this is how I felt. 50 Shades of Grey is an almost too easy prey for humour. The books have been skewered beyond repair, so I was curious what new laughs this production would bring to table.

Turns out, they bring lots. Plenty of clever lines, creative and effective casting, brilliant songs and a great use of minimal staging. I laughed out loud numerous times throughout and sometimes that was just at the voiceover instructing us about intermission. And that is key. The production goes to great lengths to ensure the audience is fully engaged and pulled into the performance. There are a number of instances of characters directly interacting with the audience. At one point some of the audience get up close and very personal with an intimate moment between two of the characters. And every time the audience engaged us, we ate it up.

Not only do the performers engage with the audience, they engage the originating text to a tee. The good and the bad. There are many references, within the storyline, back to the book with a sly wink and smile. Most are entirely overt, but I also picked up on some subtle, yet hilarious, references. Maybe I've spent too much time reading about these books!

One (odd) critique I have of the show: For some reason, in two instances, the writers seem to think that fisting only happens to asses. Certainly, it can be part of ass play, but I'm sure that fisting is more often done to a vagina. Just a minor thing.

I had a fantastic time checking out the production of 50 Shades! The Musical—The Original Parody. We laughed a lot and were consistently surprised by the quality of the writing. Don't be afraid to get roped into...coming!

Thursday, April 10, 2014

Daily Sex Discussion #513: Favourite Porn Star?

Daily Sex Discussion #513

Do you have a favourite porn performer? (link?)

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

My Next Sex City—April 22—Danny Wylde! Kitty Stryker! Paul Deeb!

Folks, I'm going to give it to you straight: I do Sex City so that I can showcase people like those who will be on my next edition of Sex City.

Tuesday April 22, 11pm-midnight ET — Listen locally on CIUT 89.5FM or streaming live

And it is because of these people and their stories that I implore you to support Sex City and CIUT in our quest for a new transmitter.

Their stories are vital.

So on Tuesday April 22, I am delighted to welcome this fantastic array of guests.
  • Christopher Zeischegg, formerly known as Danny Wylde in the porn industry, left the biz but recently wrote this compelling piece about performing on video again—with his new partner.
  • Kitty Stryker, queer BBW porn star and sex geek is wildly interested in porn parodies and will tell us all about this growing market in the industry.
  • Paul Deeb is the artist behind Pillow Book and his short film "Trains" (featuring Dylan Ryan and Lily Cade) wowed the crowd and won for Sexiest Short and the Feminist Porn Awards.
Sex City—April 22—11pm-midnight ET

Wednesday, April 09, 2014

Daily Sex Discussion #512: Bondage Implement?

Daily Sex Discussion #512

What is your favourite bondage implement (rope, cuffs, necktie, etc)?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Tuesday, April 08, 2014

Daily Sex Discussion #511: Sex-related Social Concern?

Daily Sex Discussion #511

What specific sex-related topic do you think is the most pressing social concern?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Sex City and CIUT Desperately Need Your Help

We at Sex City pride ourselves on being one of the few unabashed, sexy, intelligent discussion of sex, sexuality and gender over the airwaves in Canada. That we get to broadcast online to a global audience is a bonus, but we definitely get our jollies knowing that we're talking about sex on the radio.

Unfortunately, our signal, CIUT's signal, is currently compromised because the station's transmitter has suffered a grand mort. Instead of reaching millions in a significant radius, CIUT is currently only broadcasting to the Toronto area.

This puts a significant kink (not the good kind) in our upcoming Membership Drive. It also makes that Membership Drive all the more important.

CIUT needs $160,000 for a new transmitter and Sex City wants to be the station's best wingperson. 



Click on that link and you'll see you can win prizes if you donate in advance of our April 15 show. Tell them we sent you though! I also think donating early is a sign that you believe in community radio, and specifically talking about sex on the radio.

We don't mind you talking about us, telling your friends you like how we talk dirty. Hell, even put out number and website on the bathroom wall.

Listen to these two testimonials by the fantastic Rose Caraway and George Eliott Clarke.

And please let me know if you donate. I'll publicly thank you! Or anything else you want!

Help us All You Sexy Folkies, You're Our Only Hope.

Free Shipping this Month from Northbound Leather!

Yes, you read that right! Northbound Leather is offering free shipping this month!

Workshop: Flirtation 101

Flirtation 101

Date: Friday April 25, 2014
Time : 7:00 pm to 9:30 pm
Good For Her
175 Harbord Street, Toronto

Price : $33.00

This fun and interactive workshop will cover the ins and outs of friendly and romantic flirting. You’ll learn how, when, where and with whom you should flirt and why. Toronto’s biggest tease, CoCo La Crème will teach you how to sail through social situations with grace and style. All are welcome.

TMI Tuesday: April 8, 2014—The Art of Sex

TMI Tuesday: April 8, 2014—The Art of Sex

For TMI Tuesday this week we delve into the creative collaboration when sex meets art with The Art of Sex.

1. Would you take or have you taken a sexually themed vacation getaway (i.e., Hedonism, Club Fantasy Island, Cap d’Agde)? Why or why not?
Does Niagara Falls count? I grew up near it and have gone back to stay in one of the numerous hotels. I think it even had a heart-shaped jacuzzi!

2. You have won an erotic fantasy weekend getaway package custom fit to your needs. Describe the fantasy you desire.
Someplace hot that allows nudity on the beach (and elsewhere). My room opens to the beach. That's all I need.

3. An artist has decided that you are his/her inspiration. They want to capture the essence of your sexiness in a sculpture. What would that sculpture look like? Describe it for us or post a photo of an existing sculpture that you believe closely captures the essence of your sexiness.
Yup, bowl of cocks

4. You are being paid 500,000 USD to pose as a live nude model mimicking one of sculptures in the photo below. Which sculpture will you recreate live? Why?

The bigger question is: who is my partner in posing? I will say though, I'd choose #2. All dudes want to try this.

5. Which book title fits your current thoughts of love, sex or romance?
a. No More Silly Love Songs
b. The Joy of the Quickie
c. Dr. Seth’s Love Prescription
d. Why Do Fools Fall In Love

A. We are the least romantic, but entirely happy and delightful, couple in the world.

Bonus: Which one is you? See the sculpture below. Tell us which position you would like to occupy and write a caption.

Cocksucker for sure! The other two are working too damn hard!


How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link totmituesdayblog from your website!

Happy TMI Tuesday!

Monday, April 07, 2014

Daily Sex Discussion #510: Nickname?

Daily Sex Discussion #510

Do you have a nickname for your genitals?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

EXCELLENT—"8 Things America Gets Wrong About Sex"

There is so much here, so much to learn. I'm going to assume that much of what is stated here could also be applied to Canada...but not quite as harshly. What the hell happened to sex in North America?

Strap-on Pleasure Podcast!

Check out Episode 1 of Kink, etc.'s brand new podcast devoted to strap-on sex! Given that it is one of my most favourite activities in the world, I gotta say I'll be a dedicated fan with each broadcast! Lori introduces us to the podcast and her and Hubby's introduction to pegging. A great listen!

Feminist Porn Conference, Day 2!

Day 2 of the Feminist Porn Conference was very good again, but I made a hasty exit before Courtney Trouble's closing. I hear it was fantastic, but I had the opportunity to catch one of my monkey's races at a swim meet and Daddy duty won out.

I caught the following workshops, deciding to stick with porn business-related topics:

Creating Fetish Content for Fun & Profit
Morgan Thorne

If You Build It, They Will .com:
Web Development & Troubleshooting
Chris Lowrance, Jiz Lee

Turned On: New Technologies, Sexual Interface, Feminist Erotic Media
N. Maxwell Lander, JP Robichaud, Merritt Kopas, Naomi de Szegheo-Lang
The first two were fantastic. I might not be planning to create porn, but Morgan Thorne's workshop was excellent. Local folks, or those who plan to visit: Morgan is a great resource here in Toronto. If you have a chance to take one of her workshops, get on it! She presented really good stuff for anyone aspiring to get into making porn—a lot of info I could have used back in the day when I was producing. The document she provided will help attendees really pull their work to the next level.

The development workshop was also extremely helpful. Jiz and Chris were a great team, fielding questions and providing a fantastic document of their talk. All info I need and will use in the coming weeks. 

The third workshop didn't do much for me. It seemed disorganized and the speakers seemed a bit ill-prepared. Definitely the least informative time I spent at the Con.

At lunch I was lucky to meet and chat with two fascinating folks: Mistress Isobel and Dr. Timaree Schmit. Timaree even interviewed us for her podcast!

Overall, I have to say I am so pleased that the Feminist Porn Con is such a success. There were so many people from out of town, people engaged in new topics and a level of dialogue without compare. It is so well-organized, features so many high-level speakers and topics and pretty much blew my mind in both the sessions and between the sessions.

I am very much looking forward to next year and continuing the conversations throughout the year.

Sunday, April 06, 2014

Workshop: Bangin' On The Telephone: Keeping the connection alive when you're miles away

Bangin' On The Telephone: Keeping the connection alive when you're miles away

Date: Thursday April 24, 2014
Time : 7:00 pm to 9:30 pm
Good For Her
175 Harbord Street, Toronto

Price : $33.00

You or your partner travel for business or school. You met at a conference in your city but they live elsewhere. Believe it or not, a LDR can be both gratifying and stimulating. Stripping and sex on Skype, erotic story exchanges where unspoken fantasies come to life on paper, "dare" packages and more. Learn how to keep the spark alive when you're not close enough to touch. All welcome.

With Sasha Von Bon Bon

Price : $33.00

Daily Sex Discussion #509: Sexy Social Media?

Daily Sex Discussion #509

Do you talk about your sexual interests openly on sites like Facebook, Twitter, Google+?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Feminist Porn Conference, Brief Day 1 Round-up!

I'll be heading back into Toronto for day 2 of the Feminist Porn Conference in a little bit. Yesterday I caught the following sessions:

Feminist Porn: What It Is, What It Isn't & Why It Matters
Lynn Comella, Courtney Trouble, Ms. Naughty, Tanesha H.D.

Pornographers Without Borders
Jennifer Lyon Bell, Pandora Blake,
Ms. Naughty, Ovidie, Constance Penley (mod.)

Film Screening + Director Q&A:

Opening Keynote: Lisa Duggan
introduced by Lynn Comella
Room 1160 (1st Floor)

When I have some time, I might through up some notes I took during the first two session. What has struck me the most has been learning about the legalities of porn, the access to porn and the culture of porn in different countries. I wasn't planning to go to Ovidie's screening, but it was too tempting to pass up after hearing her in the Pornographers Without Borders session. So much of the information I read and see and hear on porn is from a specifically North American perspective and I definitely had some assumptions about what it is like in other places, particularly France and Australia. Fascinating things to learn. 

I also had a fun lunch with Lucie Blush, Claire Litton, Niya B and Julia Sheldon

Today, I think I know my session route, but I'm not sure. The Biz Track sessions are a fantastic idea...but am I ever going to get into making porn? Hmmm, probably not. During the Feminist Porn Awards I did think of an idea for a short I'd love to produce, but I lack two major attributes—cash and skill! We'll see. Some of the sessions have to do with web development...I wonder if I could put that time down as training for my PA at work? Would be fun to explain!

Gotta get ready to go!

Saturday, April 05, 2014

Sex News! I love it! April 6, 2014

8 Signs You're In The Right Relationship

Sex Talk Fail

Sex Stories We Love: Rough Sex, Cocks in Socks and the Best Shaggin' Wagon Ever

CineKink film festival flaunts sex on the big screen: 'It's hard to tell what America is ready for' – video

Does Porn Hurt Children?

Foreign ideas won’t protect sex workers. We need a Canadian model

Erotic Author Spotlight Series: Mark A Michaels and Patricia Johnson

10 things you thought you knew about porn (prepare to have your close mind blown wide open)

Lies, damned lies and sex work statistics

Will the "female Viagra" help or hinder relationships?

She’s Coming at 10…Is Scheduled Sex Sexy?

Adultery website Ashley Madison scores big in Japan

German porn star dropped by Neo-Nazi party for having sex with black male

Prostitution law consultations find little consensus among police



Designing A Better Female Condom

Daily Sex Discussion #508: Sex Work Past?

Daily Sex Discussion #508

Would you pursue a relationship with someone who had done sex work of some sort in the past?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Call For Submissions: Cosmic Encounters - Erotic Science Fiction Stories

Call For Submissions

Cosmic Encounters - Erotic Science Fiction Stories
Editor: Nicole Gestalt
Publisher: House of Erotica
Deadline: June 30th 2014 (Early Submissions are preferred.)

Payment: Royalties will be split 40% of the net profits with contributing authors, exact values will be given once we know how many stories will be in the final anthology.
Rights: Six Years

Word Count: 5k - 15k
Theme: Science Fiction
Genre: Sicence Fiction but any sub-genre is welcome be it steamunk, BDSM, Fantasy, alternative-historical, action, comedy, crime or any other!
Pairings: Any
Heat: Any level from romance to burning the pages of the book!

Submission limit: Authors may submit up to two stories.

Editor/ Author Nicole Gestalt is looking for stories with a science fiction feel. These stories do not have to be focused on the far future or even the near future, they could be alternative histories or stories from far away worlds.

Be as inventive as you can but please don't forget the story line and the relationships! Since this is an erotic anthology there should be on the page sex scenes however don't forget the interaction between the characters and the relationship they have. The stories should either end with a Happy-For-Now or a Happy-Ever-After it would have to be a amazingly good story for me to select it if it didn't (but I am well prepared to have my opinion changed on that).

Nicole will be looking for stories that stand out so please don't just set your stories on Earth, they can be set anywhere in the solar system — or even outside of our galaxy. Don't be afraid to experiment

The No-No's: No scat, bestiality, under age sex, golden showers, rape or forced sex or incest of any kind and necrophilia (that does not include intelligent undead such as Vampires). If in doubt please ask

Format of submission: Please send the submissions double spaced in Times New Roman, 12 point black font. Indent the first line of each paragraph half an inch and double space (using normal double spacing please do not add an extra line between the paragraphs). Double quotation marks! Please submit your final, complete and totally edited version of the story. File format: .doc or .rtf. Since this is a British publisher UK spelling and grammar is greatly preferred.

In your document at the top left of the page please include you legal name, mailing address and a fifty words or less author bio written in the third person. If you are using a pen-name please provide both and make it clear which one you wish to use.

Please email your submissions

Authors must own their rights to the stories and not have had them published anywhere else. Please note the publisher has final approval over the stories included in the manuscript.

2014 Feminist Porn Award Winners!

Oh my, what a night! Really, it was an amazing way to cap these first three days of Feminist Porn awesomeness. Congratulations to all of the winner and to all those involved in created these great works.

The 2014 Feminist Porn Awards

Best Short
No Artificial Sweeteners
Sonya JF Barnett (The Madame)

Sexiest Short
Trains| Paul Deeb (Pillow Book Productions)

Steamiest Straight Movie
The Temptation of Eve | Jacky St. James (New Sensations)

Golden Beaver of Canadian Content
Power at Play | Carey Gray (House of Switch)

Best Direction
Sexual Freedom (Sex Stories 3) | Ovidie (Frenchlover TV)

Feminist Porn Awards Smutty School Teacher Award for Sex Education
Tristan Taormino’s Guide to Bondage for Couples | Tristan Taormino (Adam & Eve)

Hottest Dyke Film
Hard Femme: Lesbian Curves 2 | Courtney Trouble (TROUBLEfilms)

Honorable Mentions
Something Better: Performers Talk About Feminism & Porn | Ms. Naughty (Indigo Lush)
Best Slumber Party Ever | Samuel Shanahoy (tee vee dinner)
Doing It Again Vol 1: Playful Awakening | Tobi Hill-Meyer (Handbasket Productions)

Honorable Websites

Hottest Straight Vignette
Xconfessions | Erika Lust (Lust Productions S. L)

Hottest Lesbian Vignette
Women Reclaiming Sex on Film | Madison Young (Madisonbound Productions)

Hottest Kink Movie
Rubber Bordello | Soma Snakeoil (Snakeoil Media Productions)

Best Boygasm
Bed Party: Eden Alexander & Sebastian Keys | Shine Louise Houston (Pink & White Productions)

Tantalizing Trans Film
Trans Grrrls: Revolution Porn Style Now! | Courtney Trouble (TROUBLEfilms)

Heartthrob of the Year
Zahra Stardust

Movie of the Year
Silver Shoes | Jennifer Lyon Bell (Blue Artichoke Films)

Friday, April 04, 2014

Daily Sex Discussion #507: Spanking?

Daily Sex Discussion #507

Spanking: yes or no or curious?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Students Shut Down Awful Site

Amazing of these students to get this sort of site shut down! Taking a stand, getting this shit pulled offline and attempting to find those responsible is amazing. And finally, adults in a position of authority actually listened and acted.

James Franco's Blame-Shifting

There are so many issues in this James Franco controversy. I was actually convinced it was a poor April Fool's joke. There are age of consent issues, there are social media relationship issues. But this article seems to gloss over the age issue while focussing solely on social media problems. Thereby possibly shifting the focus away from Franco.

I'm uncomfortable with this. In the exchange, she clearly states her age. Regardless your opinion on age of consent for sex, at this point, I believe, it would have been illegal for him to hook up with her. And that is poor judgement. To try and shift that blame to the ills of social media and celebrity is irresponsible. I'm a fan but this was foolish.

Thursday, April 03, 2014

Daily Sex Discussion #506: Musical Porn?

Daily Sex Discussion #506

Would you watch porn that is also a musical?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Our Widely Varying Sexual World

I love posts like this that highlight the different sexual cultures that exist in our world. 

Favourite? The underwear-wearing folks of Inis Beag. Would love to know more context as to why they are so anti-sex, and well, anti-body.

"Sex nerds might have hacked sex."

Excellent article on the genesis of and enduring nature of sex nerds! I am about to embark on a new project with a friend all about nerd culture—but traditional nerd culture. I keep telling her that it will be very likely that I frequently drop sex nerd comparisons in. So, as preparation I have already sent her this article. Great stuff!

Playground Conference: Speaker Applications Open Now!

We are now taking speaker submissions for Playground 2014. Get your ideas into us!

Playground 2014 Speaker Application Form

Essential Clitoris Facts for Everyone!

I'm really not sure why this is aimed at Millenials, personally I think everyone, of any age, needs to learn these essential things about the clitoris.

Wednesday, April 02, 2014

Daily Sex Discussion #505: Listen or Tell?

Daily Sex Discussion #505

Do you prefer to listen to or tell sexy stories?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Porn Star Becomes Non-Porn Star Becomes Porn Star

This is a brilliant story from Christopher Zeischegg AKA Danny Wylde. It seems so topsy-turvy, so mixed up...but out of the past can come the present.

Why Is It Mostly Women Who Write About Sex?

Check out my new article on Kinkly!

Why Is It Mostly Women Who Write About Sex?

PORN STUDIES Call for Papers: Porn Goes To College

PORN STUDIES Call for Papers: Porn Goes To College

Porn Studies Forum – Porn Studies (Routledge)

The Porn Studies Forum is a regular section of Porn Studies that provides a space for timely responses to issues and developments within the academic study of pornography. We encourage provocative and open-ended short pieces of 500-1,500 words (including notes).Especially encouraged are works from performers who are students, academics who might teach porn, and short essays dealing with timely or provocative issues.

Call for Papers: Porn Goes to College

The media frenzy surrounding Belle Knox, the “Duke University Freshman Porn Star,” as the press has described her, has drawn pointed attention to the intersection of pornography and college life, including issues of privacy, stigma, empowerment, and the sexual double standard. There’s nothing new, however, about pornography’s relationship to, and presence on, college campuses. In the late eighties, author and “sexpert” Susie Bright presented her traveling road show “How to Read a Dirty Movie” at colleges across the US; and since the early 1990s, Professor Constance Penley has taught a course on the history of pornography, in which she encourages students to think about pornography as they would any other film genre and media industry. Anti-pornography slide shows and documentaries are regularly screened in college lecture halls as part of the standard curricula in many courses, while porn performers and directors are routinely invited to speak on college campuses about their experiences in the adult industry, sometimes drawing criticism and generating controversy in the process.

Submissions that address the following topics are welcome:
Performer experiences with balancing sex work and school; public personas and privacy
Teaching pornography in the college classroom
Studying pornography from the student perspective
Navigating institutional cultures which might not be hospitable to discussions about pornography
Campus controversies involving pornography
Organizing or attending campus events, lectures, and screenings of pornography
Porn pedagogy

Completed submissions are due July 1, 2014, and should be uploaded to Please direct questions and inquiries to Lynn Comella at

April 2, 2014

Tuesday, April 01, 2014

Orgasm whisperer, Fellini Film Fest & Erotic Movie Making

The orgasm whisperer, Fellini film fest and erotic movie making by women for women

Spring is in the Air?

There's no doubt about it, this is the winter that just won't let go, but that doesn't mean you should stay in hibernation. Oasis has some hot 'n heavy events that are sure to make more than the thermometre rise. We're open from 11am-3am nearly everyday, the perfect setting to meet new friends, persue some play time with a lover or relax with your hubby. We pride ourselves on offering a non-judge mental atmosphere with many themed events for most sexual preferences/orientations, including complimentary workshops, live performances and much more. So brave the chill in the air and head down to the club for some extra curricular, stimulating activities!

Weekend Highlights

Sex School with Miss F -The Orgasm Whisperer

Friday April 4

The monthly workshop series, ‘Sex School with Miss F,’ is excited to announce Dakini Marissa who will be instructing on the beauty and power of the female orgasm. On Friday April 4th, join host Miss F and Dakini Marissa for ‘The Orgasm Whisperer,’ as she explores the yoni and instructs guests on how to reach the ultimate form of pleasure.

This workshop will be a ‘ménage a trios’, sectioned into 3 segments:

- Introduction and an 15 minute icebreaker.

- Demonstration of the Top 3 Positions of Incredible Orgasms!

- Addressing the 3 Types of Female Orgasms

This workshop will be both demonstrative, featuring a live model and instructive. It will offer a chance for couples to explore different techniques on one another and/or observe methods used by Dakini Marissa! Guests may observe or participate at their comfort level. There will be something for everyone and every yoni!

Singe women $20, Couples $80. Workshop begins at 9:00pm. Oasis Aqualounge will be open from11:00am-3:00am

Fast & Furious Like a Fellini Movie

Saturday April 5


Join us at Oasis Aqualounge on Saturday April 5th as we pay tribute to the iconic movie director Federico Fellini. This affair will celebrate sex, style and all things Italian.

Enjoy classic Fellini films on our monitors and have some naughty fun against a backdrop of European elegance. At 11:00pm, don’t miss a sultry burlesque performance by Paige Turner, a real head-turner and true classic beauty!

Oasis Aqualounge will be open from 11:00am-3:00am for women and couples. The party begins at9:00pm.

‘Fast and Furious Like a Fellini Movie -Be Italian!
Paige Turner

Foot Fetish Fantasy 

Tuesday April 8

Enjoy an evening of icebreaker footsie games, trample performances and unlimited foot worship. Allow your imagination be teased and seduced by dangerous curves, painted toes and silky stocking peels. Live burlesque by the dazzling Fionna Flauntit, Oasis sultry temptress Esther De Ville and Australia's strip tease star Arabella Allure! Burlesque show 11pm.

Weekly Favourites & More

Hot Springs featuring Naked Yoga

Wednesday April 2

It’s hump day! Join us every Wednesday for Hot Springs, hosted by the deliciously delightful MsKitty.
All day and evening security on the third floor/play areas. Single men must be chaperoned by another female(s) or couple(s).

Massage available in the evenings $1/minute Suggested time: 20 minutes. DM(Dungeon Monitor) available 7pm to 1am in the dungeon. DJ Ella Vation spins your favourite tunes from 10pm onward.

Club hours 11am-3am. $50 single gentlemen, $50 couples, ladies always free.

Naked Yoga in the dungeon with our certified, friendly instructor at 9pm to 10pm. If the class is too full, we will add on another class at 10pm. Naked Yoga is complimentary with admission to Oasis.


First Taste

Thursday April 3

Have you or your friends been thinking of coming to Oasis, but you just haven't decided to take the plunge? First Taste is the perfect opportunity to visit the club for your first time. Join MsKitty for a tour of Oasis & an introduction to the club and a lifestyle discussion, 8pm to 10pm. Couples $20 (tour & Q&A) $60 Additional to stay afterwards or $20 voucher to return another night. Single ladies free tour, $20 to stay. Club hours: 11am-3am. Couples and women only please.

Spa Sunday & Frisky Furries Night

Sunday April 6


Daytime 11am-7pm: Spa Sundays are for couples and women to end the weekend with some fun, relaxation and intimacy. Frolic in the year-round heated outdoor pool, hot tub, steam room or sauna, meet new friends or focus on each other. Join us from 11am to 7pm. $50 Couples, $20 ladies.

Evening 8pm-3am: Frisky Furries
Oasis Aqualounge is excited to announce their 2nd Furries events; Frisky Furries II-Play, Pounce and Purrr! Features will include a petting zoo, Furry porn, prizes for best Furry and a Scritching Booth. Get wild with the sounds of DJ Saucy Miso.

Prizes will be provided by Seduction Boutique. Visit their location on 577 Yonge st. in Toronto for outfit suggestions/Furry accessories. Their helpful staff will provide you with the purr-fect costume that will transform you from a mere mortal into a fun-loving, frisky Furry!

All Furries are $20. Single men w/o a costume $50. Single women w/a costume $20.
*Costumes must consist of at least 3 furry pieces in order to qualify for the $20 cover*

Sass After Class

Featuring Student Glow and Body Paint Night
Monday April 7

Join us for Sass After Class-a wallet friendly and fun day/evening geared towards those 35 and under.
This evening will feature Student GLOW and Body Paint Night. Oasis Aqualounge will be lit with black lights and there will be free body painting available to all guests! Oasis Aqualounge will be open from11am-3am. Women just $5, men under 35 with student ID $20, otherwise $50 each.

15 Minutes of Fame

Interested in being apart of smart and sensual erotic films from a female perspective?

Indigo Lust Erotic Films is a production company that creates erotic films for straight women. Indigo Lust seeks to portray female sexuality with respect and beauty. Their vision is one where the art of lovemaking is honored and intimacy is embraced.

“The company aims to move beyond the cliched boundaries and limitations of most adult entertainment to create intelligent, realistic and sensual depictions of sex. We aim to give priority to female pleasure and a woman’s point of view. Our main audience is straight women.’

Indigo Lust is looking for women and couples to appear in upcoming projects that highlight sensuality and connection within sexual acts. We would like to provide information on this opportunity to our valued members and guests. Indigo Lust is also looking to host their shoots at Oasis Aqualounge.

If you are a woman or couple interested in appearing on film please click here for more information. You may also send your inquiries to We are excited to assist in this project, which celebrates love, intimacy and sexuality.

Indigo Lush will be visting Toronto for the 9th annual Good For Her Feminist Porn Awards this is a great opportunity to take the plunge of starring in your own porn!

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Daily Sex Discussion #504: Body Part?

Daily Sex Discussion #504

What body part are you most attracted to?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Return of Toronto Erotica Writers and Readers Group?

Hi Everyone,
I think the sleep should end. I think we should wake up and get out of write about gettin' into bed.
If you are interested in participating or learning more about the Toronto Erotica Writers and Readers Group, please let me know.
If we are to gather again, what do we want to do? Reading nights of erotica? Writing exercises and sharing? Guest authors to read/speak/mentor?
Show me what you've got!

Sex City Tonight! Feminist Porn Awards and Conference Special!

My colleague Dorianne hosts her annual Feminist Porn Awards and Conference spectacular on Sex City tonight! You don't want to miss this one!

Tonight on Sex City, it’s all about the Feminist Porn awards and the Feminist Porn Conference! We will speak with Tobi Hill-Meyer, who has two films nominated for the FPAs and who will be giving a presentation on How to Respond to Criticism Productively at the Conference. Then we’ll talk to Sarah Stevens who is speaking at the conference on the topic of Rope Sluts, and Bottoms, and Subs Oh My: Rethinking Femininity and Masochism in Feminist Kink Porn. Finally we’ll talk to Jiz Lee, the new online marketing director for Pink & White Productions, a perennial FPA favourite.

Tuesday April 1, 2014 - 11pm to Midnight, 89.5 FM (Toronto)
Host: Dorianne Emmerton
Tune in and turn on as we take you into a new day!

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Bizarre Porn!

I am not one to have any kind of opinion on anyone else's porn tastes, so instead, take a look at this Bizarre Porn Tumblr...maybe you'll find something new to get into...

Kickass Prizes at Tell Me Something Good!

WOW! You gotta take note of the unbelievable prizes that are up for grabs at tomorrow's Tell Me Something Good: April Sexy Storytelling Slam - Feminist Porn Awards Week Special!

By my count, there are: 

Two tickets to Switch! FPA Edition!
Sexy Mad Libs, Body Paint, Hot Books!

Be there and be ready to tell some smutty stories!

Redhead Bedhead Reviews Lelo Dextrüs

Everybody is curious about the new Lelo Dextrüs—the vibrator that claims to not only get you off but also make you smarter. What does the Redhead Bedhead have to say about it? You might be surprised! Check out her review here!

Flying High: Sexy Stories from the Mile High Club Blog Tour!

 I am delighted to be kicking off the blog tour for Cleis Press' Flying High: Sexy Stories from the Mile High Club! This fantastic collection edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel will surely take you to new heights of sexual, erotica delight. Take a read of Rachel's introduction here and then delight in this excerpt from "34B" by Bill Kte'pi.
SWF seeks adventure. 34, attractive, strong, professional, healthy, happy. Seeking that missing piece and a man to take control. Tell me what you have to offer. 
Every time the car hit one of those speed bumps on Airline Highway, you think about turning around. This is thrilling, yes—but stupid, too. Stupid to spend this kind of money over a man you’ve never met.
Nancy—be on the flight from Baltimore to Portland: I’ve pasted the itinerary at the bottom of this email. Buy a ticket for seat 34B. I’ll reserve 34C. I’m buying two tickets; I’ll leave C empty until it’s time.
Waiting in line for your ticket, waiting to board, you look at the men around you, even though you know he isn’t one of them. He’ll board the second flight, when you switch planes in Baltimore. You don’t know where he’s from. He doesn’t know where you’re from. 
As you go through security, you half hope you’re stopped for something, that the emery board in your purse disqualifies you from air travel, that overzealous air marshals decide you’re a threat to national security—and you get sent home to your matching plates and new stereo and warm safe bed.
You fidget on the plane to Baltimore, unable to concentrate on the paperback you brought in your purse. You glance down at your lap to see if anyone can tell you’re not wearing panties. Baltimore is a forty-seven-minute layover that seems to stretch on for hours.
You board the second plane.
34B—it sounds like a bra size. You don’t even know his name. You gave yours—your real name, though he may assume otherwise—but he never offered his and you didn’t want to ask and have him say no. You didn’t want to establish his right to tell you no that quickly.
This is stupid. But it’s safe, isn’t it?
He pointed that out when you hinted at your uncertainty a month ago: It’s an airplane. What is it you think I can do without you letting me do it?
34C is empty, as he said it would be. You steel yourself, don’t look at the men on the plane. You don’t want to seem eager or desperate or stupid. Maybe he’s up front in first class, or maybe he’s watching you right now. Maybe he’s changing his mind. It’s 3:00 a.m. Eastern Time, and scattered passengers are asleep or reading. Most of them were here when you boarded. You didn’t think to check where the plane was coming from. Maybe from where he lives. Florida? Alabama?
You wait for the captain to turn the seat belt light off, and a piece of you hopes for turbulence, hopes the light will stay on and on and on until you disembark in Portland. You’ll promise to reschedule but of course you won’t, and—the seat belt light clicks off. He’s free to move about the plane.
You do what he told you to do.
You unbuckle your seat belt and drape the flimsy airline blanket over your lap. There’s no one in 34A, and you wonder if he bought that ticket, too. You push your armrests up. There are only the three seats on this side of the aisle: across the aisle an old man has fallen asleep reading the in-flight magazine. The flight attendant turns his light off as she passes.
You sit and wait.