Wednesday, July 30, 2014

My Next Sex City—August 12—Belle Knox! Kelly Shibari! Shane Allison!

I am really excited about my next Sex City show because I get to speak to some truly fearless, awesome folks of the sex world!

On Tuesday August 12, we'll be talking plus-size lovin', self-lovin' and law and order lovin':

Tune in, 11pm – midnight on TUESDAY AUGUST 12 to CIUT 89.5FM in the Toronto area or stream live online!

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Sexy Storytelling on Sex City!

Last night's Sex City was definitely a different experience...and it was AWESOME!

We often talk to people about the mechanics of, the feelings or, the politics of, the art of sex. But we don't always take enough of a listen to our stories of sex. Thank you to Samantha Fraser and Sophie Delancey from Tell Me Something Good Sexy Storytelling Slam and a special thank you to Elle Chronique, Wil McLean and Tynan Rhea for sharing their experiences.


Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Monday, July 28, 2014

Daily Sex Discussion #621: Impressive Underwear?

Daily Sex Discussion #621

What type of underwear to you choose when you aim to impress?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Sunday, July 27, 2014

Friday, July 25, 2014

Daily Sex Discussion #618: Campfire?

Daily Sex Discussion #618

Have you ever had sex by a campfire?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Give in to The Big Book of Submission

Rachel Kramer Bussel is without compare when it comes to collecting the best erotica on specific sexual subjects. With her latest The Big Book of Submission: 69 Kinky Takes (Cleis Press), Rachel has taken what can sometimes be a single act and what can sometimes be an encompassing lifestyle and pulled together an outstanding array of stories that fall from one end to the other—and everywhere in between. Great for those who are curious about submission and those who have already given in (or have others giving in to you). 
Whet your appetite with this excerpt from Alyssa Morris’s ‘Patiently Waiting’

Her nostrils fill with the scents of leather and the vanilla candle that she knows is lit on the table. On her knees, leaning over the ottoman next to the couch, her breasts rub on the cold leather as her nipples harden and try to push deeper into the material. The added stimulation is welcome, especially since she has been tightly blindfolded and had earplugs put in. She can’t hear anything, and even if she got the blindfold to come off she wouldn’t be able to look behind her due to being bound in her current position. Her hands are tied tightly behind her back, forcing her to use her chest to keep herself balanced. She can only imagine how she looks, chocolate skin draped over the smooth cream-colored leather. She waits, the fan blowing above her creating a gentle breeze that caresses her body from the back of her shoulders down to the crack of her plump ass. Her brown dreaded hair is down, just how he likes it, and she can feel some of it tickling the nape of her neck.
For her, being told to wait is one of the hardest commands to follow. She can suck cock on command, get in position for a spanking when asked and be open and ready for a good fuck whenever her Master gets hard. However, waiting is the most painful act. To her it feels like a waste. Why make her wait when she could be being used in some way? She already knows the answer to this question as it floats through her mind. Because it is about submitting to her Master; he knows how to push her limits in just the right way. Some have their limits pushed by pain or extreme behaviors. Not her; when she is waiting her mind races, wondering when he will appear.
As what seem like hours pass before her, she thinks about what might be coming. Will it be a spanking or will her Master be so horny from watching her squirm in anticipation that he won’t be able to keep from fucking her? Her mind continues to race. At least when he’s behind her with a riding crop or a paddle she knows there is another blow coming, another jolt to her nervous system, but waiting is completely different; she doesn’t know where to expect a sensation of pleasure or pain. He’s told her that he would test her both physically and mentally. She should have known that when he asked her what her biggest personality defect was and she responded, “I can be so impatient sometimes, I’ll work on it though,” he would be the one to help her get there. Even though she feels like this is some kind of punishment, she knows it isn’t, and trusts him to know when she’s reached her limit.

Call for Submissions: Xcite Books

Xcite Books Author Guidelines

Xcite Books is the UK’s largest erotic publisher and ETO’s Best Erotic Book Brand winners five years running. We publish erotic fiction in paperback, ebook, and audio formats. It’s really important that our readers trust our brand and know that, when they invest their time and money in an Xcite product, it has been written to specific guidelines and professionally edited. We welcome submissions from all authors – published, unpublished and even self-published. Our professional editorial team work closely with writers to help develop accepted stories until they meet the correct standard for publication.

Our authors: We know our company’s success is built on the talent of our authors and editors. We have a strong pool of writers who come from every corner of the globe – their diversity adds enormous breadth to the Xcite range and we hope that every one of them is proud to ‘write for Xcite’.

Please note: We require worldwide print, ebook, and audio rights on all work. Please do not submit if these are not available.

The company has three specific imprints:

A new imprint which offers contemporary reading for those who like strong characterisation and a more developed relationship together with explicit, passionate sex.

Aimed at women and couples, Xcite offers a comprehensive range of mainstream short-story anthologies and erotic novels with mixed and varied themes. These may include some mild BDSM elements, multiple partners, and gay and lesbian themes.

The Xtrm range offers explicit BDSM and heavily masochistic themes for braver readers. Other themes may include submission and domination, bondage, and personal punishment. All content is consensual but characters may be pushed beyond their natural comfort zone.

Writers Guidelines:

Novella or novel length erotic romances with strong emphasis on a developing heterosexual relationship with passionate sex and possible light BDSM. Ideally emphasising a conflict that can be overcome to achieve a climactic ending. All time periods accepted. The plots must be strong and the book gripping and entertaining with well-developed sexual tension.

We are looking for a variety of themes. All sexual acts must be consensual and legal. Variety is the spice of life so giving your story an unusual setting, time period, or style will help your chances of being accepted. They can have a male POV but highlights the female’s enjoyment as well as the males’.

Themes within this range can include explicit and intense BDSM but it must be clearly consensual. Edgier scenes can be included but no scat, bestiality, incest, or non-consensual activity. No extreme violence (i.e. no insertion of weapons such as guns/knives).

Manuscript length: Please note: we are currently not accepting short story submissions.

Novella 15-20,000 words
Novel 50 - 80,000 words

PLEASE CLICK HERE to submit you manuscript

If you have any questions or queries about submissions please email our Xcite editor at

Please do not use this for submissions - they must be sent via this link CLICK HERE

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Thursday, July 24, 2014

Daily Sex Discussion #617: 50 Shades Trailer?

Daily Sex Discussion #617

With the release of the 50 Shades of Grey trailer, does it make you want to see the film?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Northbound Leather's Tribe Reunion

Northbound Leather's Tribe Reunion

Friday, August 8

Northbound Leather Ltd.
586 Yonge Street, Toronto, Ontario M4Y 1Z3

Join us as we transform into the welcome center for Toronto Leather Pride. There will be refreshments served all day long. ADDED BONUS- our "Let's Make a Deal" event is back!
Come have a drink and a nibble, catch up with old friends and make some new ones. Pick up your pre-registered package or buy tickets to events. While you're here, make us an offer on a slection of unique Northbound Leather designs. These include sample of one of a kind pieces. Name your price. Maybe we'll meet it!

A Call to End Mastubation Stigma

How is it, in our world, that a teenager can be teased, bullied and shamed for masturbating?

How is it this act, the most simple and easy of pleasures, can have such a stigma around it? 

The inimitable Carol Queen was recently interviewed on the tragic bullying and suicide of 14-year-old Matthew Burdette.

Can her words have come weight please? Can we stop this ridiculous social judgement of masturbation?

Alison Tyler Leaves Us Bound for Trouble—In the Best Possible Way!

How does Alison Tyler do it? Every collection, every book is an exquisite journey into the world of BDSM erotica. Is it too easy to say that we readily submit to her? In her latest collection Bound for Trouble: BDSM Erotica for Women (Cleis Press), Tyler again brings together pleasure and pain. Again demonstrates the dual desires of dominance and submission. Again ties us up in those knots that we desire. 

Revel in this excerpt from Sophia Valenti's ‘Simple Pleasures’
Perfectly still. That’s how I wanted him. Unable to move, unable to speak. Unable to schedule yet another meeting or conference call. I wanted him to stop moving and be fully present in the moment, instead of rushing through it because he was already planning the next one.
I understood where he was coming from, I really did. Marco was a busy man. His life was a maelstrom of appointments. Between meetings, travel, and business engagements masquerading as social events, it was a wonder we found any time to date. Though I’ll admit that sometimes he managed to fit me in by double booking. Trust me, I’d gone to my fair share of corporate shindigs, during which I’d smile and make polite conversation that was only interrupted when impossibly slender wannabe actors would wander by with trays of tiny food. The servers would flash their professionally whitened smiles, but when I looked into their eyes, I could tell they’d rather be somewhere else. It was similar to the look of longing I’d see in Marco’s eyes at the end of a tiring day, when he’d let his guard down. I knew he loved his work, but he was wrapped up in a tangle of obligations. Having taken control of his family’s business, he was determined to make it even more successful than it had already been. Pride and ambition fueled him, but he didn’t know how to switch off those feelings in order to recharge.
The world may have seen a bold, successful executive, but I saw a man who desperately needed someone else to take the reins—if only for a little while.
I’d seen glimmers of that desire the times I’d wrested control from him in the bedroom. The first time I flipped us over and rode his cock, I saw his eyes light with fire. The next time, I took things a step further, holding his wrists over his head as I ground my body against him and took my pleasure. I watched his face soften as he surrendered to my will and lost himself in pure, unadulterated lust.
I felt like his true nature had been revealed to me for the very first time, and it tripped something inside me. I wanted to see that look again. I wanted him exposed and vulnerable, abandoning everything he thought he needed to be.
While he may have lavished me with expensive presents, that moment of clarity and release would be my gift to him.

BDSM Writers Con August 21-24

Join us for BDSM Writers Con August 21-24 in NYC with Keynote Speaker, Joey W. Hill.

We also have Laura Antoniou, Kallypso Masters, Cris Anson, Marla Monroe and 34 other authors attending and presenting workshops plus BDSM Experts providing Live Demos.

There are several Author/Reader Mix and Mingles as well as a Private BDSM Club Night and Party. Plus we have a BDSM Book Fair & Between The Covers Erotica Reading Series on Sunday which is open to the public. We also have a Publishers Panel with Samhain Publishing, Riverdale Avenue Books, Cleis, Rachel Kramer Brussel, Louise Fury and Bent Agency.

Receive a $75 INSTANT discount if you attend the entire conference

Use code: GROUPS upon checkout.

Can't take 4-days off work, then join us for a ONE-DAY Pass on Saturday August 23 where BDSM Experts from across the country will be conducting Live Demos on various aspects of BDSM activities and play scenes. We have Bo Blaze who runs TES Novice Group providing several workshops on how to play with various BDSM Toys and how to Push your Partner's Buttons for Pleasure. Sir Guy will join us providing a discussion on BDSM relationships as well as a Live Demo on H.O.T (Hands Only Torture). Traveling Fool, Jay and Maryann join us for the third year in a row to teach participants the joys of the Violet Wand complete with a Live Demo. Plus, NauttiBoy steals our breath with his Live Demo and instruction on the use of Sensual Steel. And of course we have other workshops by experienced authors on various aspects of BDSM.

We end this fabulous day with a Private BDSM Party hosted by Powder from NYC Fetish Tribe. Admission: $150

Make it a mini-vacation getaway and spend the night with us at our host hotel

The Roosevelt where you can relax in their spacious rooms after the workshops for a few hours before you need to get dressed in your sexy leathers and join us for the BDSM Private Party where you can party till dawn. Afterwards, sleep in and join us Sunday at noon for the BDSM Book Fair & Between The Covers Erotica Reading Series. My Lady's Toys is our event vendor offering great BDSM toys and clothing at discount prices.

Sunday is FREE to the public.

Use our hotel discount code: Writers Con, for an $80 savings and stay at the night for only $219. Our room discount dates are August 19 - 26.

Feel free to contact us with any questions.

Register at: BDSM WRITERS CON | Where reality and fantasy…come together!

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Daily Sex Discussion #616: Fantastic Fantasy?

Daily Sex Discussion #616

Do you include fantastic characters or creatures in your fantasies?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Private Tantric Teaching, Spectator Friday, Beach Field Trip with Oasis!

Your Summer Getaway from the Everyday

Get Sexy at Oasis Aqualounge!

Playboy Appeal!

Oasis Aqualounge was mentioned in a recent issue of Bulgarian Playboy. Local photographer Paul Venomous worked with model Kirra Kiss at the club, which features the blond beauty in the Oasis Aqualounge sauna.

Click here for the photos!

For more information about Paul Venomous, check out:

A note to our guests:

Please be aware that all Oasis Aqualounge Memberships are non-transferable. We appreciate your understanding.

Attention Smokers:

A new Ontario by-law will be changing the areas in which smoking is permitted. Effective immediately, Oasis Aqualounge will only allow smoking in the alcove area beside/behind the cabana. Signage will be available both outside and throughout the club. We were visited by the by-law officers; they said they would be returning to check on us, so we feel we do not have any choice but to comply. We apologize for any inconvenience this may cause but by law, we're under the obligation to enforce it. We appreciate your cooperation.

Topless Tea & Samba Sass
Oasis Blog

The Oasis event this Saturday was titled "Sun, Samba & Sex" although the weather didn't cooperate with us, so it was more like "Rain, Samba & Sex!" However that didn't stop the hosts, volunteers and guests from having fun and making it feel like the sun was blazing in the sky! The afternoon began with a topless tea party on the front lawn of Oasis (facing Carlton Street). This "topless promo" was geared towards raising excitement for the Oasis event "Pop Your Picnic Cherry" event happening this Saturday at Toronto's Cherry Beach.

Plan Your Visit
Tuesday July 22 -Amateur Porn Night
​(Everyone welcome)
Wednesday July 23 -Hot Springs featuring Amber Ray Burlesque
The Right Approach
(Everyone welcome)
Thursday July 24 -Double Your Pleasure featuring Tantric Teasers
(Couples & women only)
Friday July 25 -Spectator Sex
(Couples & women only)
Saturday July 26 - Pop Your Picnic Cherry - Singles and couples welcome at beach, club event is
(Couples & women only)
Sunday July 27 -Staycation Sunday & Private Event
(Daytime =couples & women only. Evening =private event)

Weekend Highlights

Spectator Sex

Friday July 25

Join us for the hottest Friday night in town! Watch volunteer couples perform for your viewing pleasure, the last Friday every month at Spectator Sex.

Performances begin at 10:00 pm. Hosted by the lovely Ella Vation. Couples and women only please. Club open 11:00 am-3:00 am.

Are you an exhibitionist? Talk to us about performing in front of an appreciative audience. Please email, include "Spectator" in the subject.

Pop Your Picnic Cherry

Saturday July 26

Join us at Cherry Beach on Saturday July 26th for ‘Pop Your Picnic Cherry’-our annual customer appreciation picnic. From 12:00 pm-5:00 pm, enjoy Naked Yoga, tarot card readings, a hula hoop demonstration and a BBQ. We welcome you to bare what you dare!

Single men, women and couples are welcome to join us at the beach and it will be free of charge. Our club after party is for couples and women only please. Any women/couples who pay the cost of admission to the club and wish to return that evening will receive free transportation from Oasis Aqualounge to Cherry Beach and back to the club. Single men joining us at the beach will receive a 50% off card to use for another day-Tuesdays and Wednesdays allow single men to attend Oasis Aqualounge.

There will be staff to greet you in the parking lot of Cherry Beach (where the food trucks area) and will direct you to our area. Transportation will be leaving around 11:30 am that afternoon and will return around 5:00 pm.

The first 5 female guests to arrive will receive a pair of edible cherry pasties!

Oasis Aqualounge will supply some water, but we do encourage guests to bring extra water bottles, sunscreen, a blanket/towel/sun protection, like a hat, umbrella, etc. Keep yourself cool and comfortable under the sun.

The evening will feature an after party at the club and will be open exclusively to women and couples.

Henry Kestler will continue to offer tarot card readings throughout the evening, which will be free by donation. Visit his table and see what the cards have in store for you.

Cheery, cherry themed outfits are encouraged! Great prizes for the best cherry themed outfit!

Oasis Aqualounge will be open from 11:00am-3:00am for women and couples only.
Women $20, couples $80.

Weekly Favourites & More

Hot Springs featuring Amber Ray Burlesque & The Right Approach

Wednesday July 23


Celebrate hump day the Oasis way. Hang out poolside, meet new friends, mix, mingle & explore! Weekly features always include:

-DJ Ella Vation spins the sexiest tunes from10:00 pm until late.
-Massage available in the evenings for only a $1/minute (suggested time: 20 minutes).
-DM (Dungeon Monitor) available 7:00 pm to 1:00 am in the dungeon.

Tonight's special features:
International Burlesque Superstar Amber Ray will be gracing the stage tonight for her first appearance at Oasis Aqualounge! This buxom bombshell will dazzle you with her outlandish costume & saucy striptease. Burlesque show11:00 pm. Amber will also have her famous hair flower accessories “Amber Ray Accoutrements” on site for purchase. This is an evening not to be missed!

The Right Approach to Attracting Women & Bathhouse Etiquette
This monthly workshop occurs on the fourth Wednesday during Hot Springs at Oasis Aqualounge. Join us in the dungeon at 10:00pm for sexy icebreakers and entertaining skits on the right approach to meeting women at Oasis Aqualounge and policies of the club.

Hosted by Miss F and the friendly and alluring staff at Oasis Aqualounge, The Right Approach hopes to provide some guidance in terms of meeting new people, negotiating sexual activity and the chance to interact with others in a friendly, non-judgmental environment. We are excited to provide some tools that could help in the exploration of the lifestyle and instruct newcomers on the best way to conduct themselves in this sexually charged atmosphere.

Oasis Aqualounge will be open from 11:00am-3:00am for Hot Springs. The workshop will be begin at 10:00 pm and is free to attend with admission into the club.

Double Your Pleasure featuring Tantric Teasers

Thursday July 24


Couples double your fun this Thursday and bring along a second lady for free. Enjoy our spa facilities or mix and mingle upstairs in our various play rooms.

Tonight's Special Feature:
Oasis Aqualounge is pleased to feature Dakini Marissa on Thursday July 24th for special tantric sessions geared exclusively towards couples!

Visit Dakini Marissa upstairs in our private room, located on the fourth floor of the club. She will be offering sacred tantric ‘teasers’ in 15 minute bookings in order to share, enlighten and expose new guests to this beautiful form of spirituality. From 9:00 pm-11:00 pm, those interested may book a time and enjoy a guided journey of intimacy with their partner.

For more information please visit her website: and/or follow her on Twitter @MaryTantra

Oasis Aqualounge will be open from 11:00 am-3:00 am for ‘Double Your Pleasure’ Thursdays. Guided tantric teachings will be included in the cost of admission to the club.

Women $20, couples $80/second lady with a couple-free (must arrive and pay together).

Staycation Sunday

July 27

The perfect destination getaway right in the heart of the city! Indulge in paradise without having to pack a suitcase. Oasis offers a beautiful outdoor pool in a private court yard where you can swim, sip a cocktail and soak up some rays. The indoor hot tub, sauna and upper floor themed play rooms are available for even more indulgence. Couples and women only please. Club open 11:00 am-7:00 pm. Couples $50, ladies $20.
*Please note that Oasis will be closed for a private party this evening.

Work Week Warm Up

Sass After Class featuring Brass After Class

Monday July 28

Sass After Class is an event for students to come and enjoy Oasis Aqualounge at a more wallet friendly rate. Come out and relax by the pool, spin on the poles, or swing in the dungeon.

Tonight's feature:

Join Lovely Eva’s fantastic pole dancing class this Monday at Sass After Class. Eva teaches a class that’s safe, non-hierarchical, body positive, and gender neutral. Everyone is welcome, Beginners and experts alike. Classes will be free with admission to the club. Brass After Class is free with the cost of admission to Oasis Aqualounge.

Women $5, men 35 years and under with student ID $20, men 35 years and under without student ID $50.

Super Sexy Pool Party & B-Day Bash

Tuesday July 29

Join us for a super sexy pool party and birthday bash for Miss F! Wet T-shirt contest, sexy games, amazing prizes and birthday cake Party starts 8:00 pm-3:00 am.
Single men/couples-$50, women -free.

Oasis will be open today from 11:00 am-3:00 am.

Upcoming Highlights -Save the Date!

Forbidden Island -Saturday Aug 2
Long Weekend Bonus Hot Springs -Monday Aug 4
Social media links:

My Latest Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly!

You know, I am particularly fond of the research being done on short men and their sexual frequency...

Sex Stories We Love

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Daily Sex Discussion #615: Masturbation Hand?

Daily Sex Discussion #615

Do you have a primary masturbation hand?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Reflective Sex Advice

Fantastic tidbits of advice from some people who know a thing or 99 about sex! Taking the time to listen to others is great...but making the most of your experiences and also reflecting on them is key.

Unforgettable Connected Sex

I completely agree that these tips for unforgettable sex are excellent. Connecting, celebrating...all good. Unless you're just looking for a raw, raunchy fuck! Then that's a whole other column just waiting to be written.

TMI Tuesday: July 22, 2014—Can we talk… relationships?

TMI Tuesday: July 22, 2014

Hello. Welcome to TMI Tuesday. Up this week:
Can we talk… relationships?

1. What is the first thing that pops into your mind when you see an attractive person?
"Hey, look at that attractive person..."

2. What is your idea of a dream date? Describe the person and the type of date experience.
I don't have one. I'll never have one. Experiences are to be had and not planned or anticipated. Same with the person. 

3. How many serious relationships have you had? Were you in love?
4...and yes, every time

4. How many casual sexual relationships have you had?
Not many...4-5? 

5. What will ruin a relationship for you?
The worst thing in the world is if a person is not genuine. And this doesn't just mean truthful. The person needs to be genuine to their own self as well. Nothing tanks a relationship faster than a person who isn't true to themself.

Bonus: What is your definition of sexy?


How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link totmituesdayblog from your website!

Happy TMI Tuesday!

Monday, July 21, 2014

Is Friends With Benefits For You?

With 10 good reasons like these, why don't we all have Friends with Benefits? This definitely is a great sounding list, but is it a case of rose-coloured glasses? We sure to watch the video as well. The FWB debate is rather compelling and exciting, so why isn't everyone jumping on board?

Daily Sex Discussion #614: Friends with Benefits?

Daily Sex Discussion #614

Are you interested in having friends with benefits?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

TONIGHT: Canada’s New Prostitution Laws: The impact on Sex Workers

Canada’s New Prostitution Laws: The impact on Sex Workers


at 7:30pm

Duke of York
39 Prince Arthur Ave., Toronto

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In a unanimous decision, the Supreme Court of Canada struck down three provisions in the criminal code related to prostitution. The Supreme Court found the old laws, under which prostitution was legal while related activities were not, violate the right to security of the person which is protected by the Charter of Rights and Freedoms. Parliament had one year to come up with changes.

The government recently tabled Bill C-36, the “Protection of Communities and Exploited Persons Act”, in response to the laws struck down in December. These proposed changes are aimed at buyers of sexual services and “pimps”, and defines sex work as inherently dangerous and exploitative. However, the sweeping changes do not protect sex workers.

Rather than criminalizing the purchasing of sexual services in a bill unlikely to survive a Supreme Court challenge, Canada could look to alternative models of legislation such as New Zealand which decriminalized sex work in 2003. The move saw little increase in the number of people entering the trade, but sex workers have reported improved health, safety, and human rights.

Sonya JF Barnett, co-founder of After Bedford, and Rachel, a board member from Maggie’s Toronto Sex Workers’ Action Project, will be joining us to discuss the impacts Bill C-36 on sex workers.

Join us on July 21 at the Duke of York. Doors open 7:00pm. Discussion starts 7:30pm.

Please RSVP on our Eventbrite page. You can follow the ticket link provided here.

Women Claiming Their Sexuality

Here, here!
Excellent post by the inimitable Bobbie Morgan of A Good Woman's Dirty Mind on the need for women to claim their sexuality. Reading her story and experiences, I am left to wonder how many other women are in the same position and how much more we need, societally, to do to make it possible for women to fully, happily explore their sexuality.

Know Your Lube Ingredients

Interesting article detailing the different ingredients that various lubes might contain. Personally, I'm glad Sliquid got a mention, they're product is good. But a key take away here is to know what affects your body, what you might react to, before using it. As an aside, I sure wish a paragraph might have been devoted to lubes and ass sex.

Sunday, July 20, 2014

Sex Spreadsheet As Communication?

Sorry, but shit guy is ridiculously callous. There are better ways to handle this situation.

Daily Sex Discussion #613: Height?

Daily Sex Discussion #613

Sex partner preference: shorter than you, taller than you or about the same height?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Please Fund The Atlas of Erotic Anatomy and Arousal

I received word about this outstanding project being undertaken in Australia and I think it sound fantastic. Please consider funding it! With only two weeks to go, time is getting tight!
The Atlas of Erotic Anatomy and Arousal will be truly a revolutionary product - there is currently nothing in the world like it, teaching how our bodies are built for sexual pleasure ( not reproduction) and how to make the most of that.

The project is made of up a series of 4 online seminars presented by me, Cyndi Darnell, one of Australia's leading sex therapists & sex educators. I've been producing and presenting sex and pleasure seminars, workshops and events for over 5 years. Now, I want to take tested and proven material to a global audience by creating audio-visual seminars to be distributed online, as downloadable seminars and live-hosted webinars.

The seminars aim to help people have the best sex they possibly can in ways that are helpful, fun and sexy, and neither too clinical nor sleazy. They will be illustrated by fine line drawings being created specifically for this series by one of Australia's finest illustrators, Lily Mae Martin.
We are now seeking funding with the intention of starting the project at the beginning of August and having The Atlas of Erotic Anatomy and Arousal complete and ready for distribution by January 2015.
If you feel drawn to supporting the project you can do so here
and also share it with people and organisations you feel would also benefit from it.
We have only 2 weeks left to hit our target so anything you can offer to help out is deeply appreciated.

Saturday, July 19, 2014

Sex News! I love it! July 20, 2014

Sex Mistakes Guys Make

My Trans Son: Standing Tall

Apple’s “Vagina” Ban is a Bigger Deal Than You Think

Your Brain In Love

Two Couples, One Mortgage


Long Distance Love: Keeping the Spark Alive

Why Are We Still Fighting Over Birth Control in the 21st Century?

Why We Deserve More Bisexual Characters On Television

The Stigma Around Erotica Continues


Health survey gives government its first large-scale data on gay, bisexual population

Jealous of what? Solving polyamory’s jealousy problem

Sex worker rights activist Ye Haiyan says she is barred from leaving China

Why This Generation Has No Idea How To Actually Have Sex

Sex After Miscarriage

Is Canada’s New Anti–Sex Work Bill Unconstitutional?

What You Should Know About The Condoms in Porn Law

Op-ed: Where Did the 'Gay' in 'Gay Pride' Go?

Come As You Are Workshops with Andrea Zanin!

Come As You Are is certainly offering up an all-star array of talent in their amazing workshop series. As with Midori and Ducky Doolittle, be sure you sign up to learn from the inimitable Andrea Zanin as soon as you can!
The Dance Of D/S Workshop

Cultivating Dominant and Submissive Body Language
With Andrea Zanin

When: Sunday, September 21, 2014. 5:30PM-7:30PM
Where: Come As You Are
Cost:$25/person (Sliding Scale Available)

A dominant / submissive dynamic can be a beautiful thing to experience and to watch. The flow of power between two or more people is a lot like a dance – in fact, specific physical motions and positions can lend D/s much of its flavour and beauty. This class will explore the use of body language and protocol to reinforce your dominant/submissive dynamic, focusing on grace, subtlety, confidence and attentiveness for both dominants and submissives. There will be lots of ideas to get you started on developing your own smooth dance of power. Areas we'll cover include opening doors / walking through, kneeling / receiving kneeling, handing something over to be taken / gracefully taking, assistance with dressing and undressing, walking, sitting, waiting, voice, touch, sex and play. Great for couples and groups; solo participants are welcome.

People of all genders and orientations welcome!

Learn more about The Dance of D/S Workshop.

10 Rules For Happy Non-Monogamy Workshop

With Andrea Zanin

Monday September 22, 2014. 7:30PM-9:30PM
Where: Come As You Are
Cost:$25/person (Sliding Scale Available)

So you’d like to be romantically involved with more than one person at once? Or maybe you’d just like to sleep with someone other than your one-and-only? Whether you’re considering your first steps into non-monogamy or you’re an old hand looking for a fresh perspective, you’ll find valuable tidbits in this common-sense approach to enjoying love and sex in the plural. This is an interactive workshop with lots of room for beginners and experienced poly folk alike to share their questions and experiences.

Learn more about 10 Rules for Happy Non-Monogamy Workshop. Three People - $60.00
One Person - $25.00

The Art Of Receiving Service Workshop

With Andrea Zanin

When: Tuesday, September 23, 2014. 7:30PM-9:30PM
Where: Come As You Are
Cost:$25/person (Sliding Scale Available)

Some delightful creature wants to polish your boots, clean your house and make you a home-cooked meal every night… without charging a cent! Sounds amazing, doesn’t it? Well, it is. But if you’re one of those lucky souls who has inspired the devoted attention of a service-oriented individual, you may have noticed that being on the receiving end requires its own kind of work, and comes with a very particular set of challenges. This workshop will help you get a handle on those challenges—from the inner work of vulnerability, trust and self-knowledge to the practical tasks of developing management skill, protocol and consensual entitlement. Come learn how to cultivate a profound, mutually rewarding relationship between server and served. BDSM experience not required.

Learn more about The Art of Receiving Service Workshop.

Daily Sex Discussion #612: Strap-ons?

Daily Sex Discussion #612

Strap-ons: yes, no or curious?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Friday, July 18, 2014

Call for Submissions:

Call for Submissions is currently seeking written contributions from skilled writers.


We are looking for high quality super-short (flash) fiction to feature twice a month. Ideally we want succinct, erotic pieces that successfully get an idea across in a small number of words. Cleverness is encouraged, as is out-and-out dirty hotness. The piece should, of course, be aimed at a female audience and female protagonists are preferred.

Flash fiction stories should be a minimum of 300 and a maximum of 500 words in length.


We are looking for high quality erotic fiction to feature once a month. Stories can cover any topic, however it must be erotic in nature, relatively explicit, sex positive and be written expressly for female readers. Female protagonists are preferred.

We’re looking for stories that are more than just a sex scene. We want to see stories with interesting scenarios and fascinating characters; stories that explore the issues and emotions surrounding sex. Remember that dialogue and buildup can be just as erotic as the actual sex.

Stories should be a maximum of 2000 words in length.


US$15 per Flash Fiction piece
US$25 per Erotic Fiction piece

Payment will be made electronically , so you must have an appropriate account the best known online payment system (who I won't mention here due to their unusual methods of dealing with adult sites). If you cannot be paid this way, we cannot publish your work.


Email submissions to subs AT forthegirls DOT com

We prefer .doc or .txt attachments with no html formatting, but will also accept submissions in the body of the email. Do not send rich text format (rtf) documents. If we can’t read your submission, it will go in the trash.

We accept stories with standard formatting however we prefer documents to be single spaced and without indents or tabs, each paragraph appearing as a separate block of text. This helps with our online formatting.

Subject heading should be “For The Girls Writing Submission.” Writers should state the section (Stories or Flash Fiction) to which they are submitting and must include the author declaration (see below) in the body of the submission email.

Please ensure your story has a title.

You will receive a confirmation email upon submission. You will be contacted by the editors if your story is selected for publication. Turnaround time is approximately 4-5 weeks and rejection emails will not be sent. However If you haven't heard from us after that time, feel free to submit elsewhere.

Payment is made upon publication although we may from occasionally pay for a piece some time ahead of it appearing in FTG.

Please note: Your submission will be published within the members area of For The Girls and will only be accessable to paying members. Small excerpts, however, may appear on our blog ( and in the RSS feed produced from this blog. No more than a paragraph will be used on the blog.

Submitted items must be in English, original and previously unpublished.

Submitted items should use correct spelling, punctuation and grammar. Poor quality or unedited work will not be considered. Writers who are unable to follow the guidelines will also not be considered.

Writers must be aged 18 years or over as at January 1, 2014.

For The Girls will retain exclusive electronic rights to the work for six months and non-exclusive rights indefinitely.

Very small extracts from published work may appear on our blog and RSS feeds.

For The Girls reserves the right to edit submitted stories if necessary. You may use a pseudonym if you wish.

We will not accept stories that feature any of the following themes or acts: non-consensual sex, bestiality, underage sex, incest, ass to mouth, violent or abusive sex, or anything where women are treated without respect (although consensual BDSM scenes are fine).

The author agrees to indemnify and hold harmless Purple Kama, its officers and assigns from and against any and all claims, suits, damages, and liabilities (including reasonable attorneys' fees) which are based on any claim of copyright infringement, plagiarism or unauthorized use.

I hereby declare that I am the original author of this article and that it has not been previously published in any form. I own the copyright to the work. I am over 18.

Midori Workshops at Come As You Are!

The amazing Midori is coming back to Toronto with a bevy of workshops at Come As You Are! You definitely need to act fast to get in on these outstanding sessions, she always sells out. Do not miss this opportunity!

Hands-On Japanese Rope Bondage Workshop

When: Saturday, October 4th, 2014. 7:30PM -10PM.
Where: Come As You Are
Cost: $70/per pair (Sliding Scale is Available)

With Midori
Everyone's catching the rope fever! Bring the pleasures from Japan into your bedroom with easy, sexy rope play. Learn simple, elegant, effective and sensual rope skills and thrill your partner. Midori will also teach you how to avoid clumsiness, minimize risks, including boring or harming your partner. Learn essential foundation techniques including four two-column restraints, safety, rope selection, and creative, sexy positions.

Wear comfortable clothing and bring a minimum of 2 lengths of 15 feet and 2 of 25 feet of rope.

Learn more about Hands-On Japanese Rope Bondage Workshop.

The Art Of Feminine Dominance Workshop

Sunday, October 5th, 2014. 5:30PM-8PM
Where: Come As You Are

With Midori
Elegance, power and confidence... Do you want to know how to be a dominant without being a bad cliche? How do you find a sexy style of erotic dominance that's authentic to you? Using a special technique she developed, Midori will help you to find your inner power femme archetype, allowing you to pursue erotic fulfillment of sensual power play. Not your typical how-to class, you'll discover the difference between constructive and destructive desires and point you towards ways of bringing satisfaction in bedroom play for both you and your partner.

Midori will share with you her secrets of the feminine art of dominance. She will discuss the psychology, practical exercises, techniques, fashion, how to discover what makes your partner weak-kneed, and more. This class is not limited to a gender, but for all who harbor the powerful woman within! Something for everyone from the novice to the experienced player.

This is an excellent foundation for the ForteFemme: Women's Dominance Weekend Intensive.

Learn more about The Art of Feminine Dominance Workshop.

Rock Her World Workshop

Exquisite Pleasures for Women

When: Tuesday, October 7th, 2014. 7:30PM-9:30PM (All genders welcome.)
Where: Come As You Are
Cost:$35/person (Sliding Scale Available) 

With Midori
A class for the woman and the lover, both.
Become an expert at navigating women's erotic landscape! —Don't be lost without a map! Come learn all the hidden ins and outs of a woman's pleasure zones with Midori.

Are you a dedicated lover of women? Learn many juicy tips and techniques.

Women! - Learn how to give great "driving directions" for all the thrills and sensations you crave... whether with a lover or playing solo. Emphasizing communication along with great technique and secret sex skills, Midori will be your guide to becoming an even more amazing lover! Learn the map and be lost no more, and enjoy the fruits of love to the fullest!

This class is packed with secrets, tips and tricks on how to give the most blissful sensations with your loving mouth and dexterous digits. You'll use delicious practice props (think fruit and candy!) and go home with skills to use that very night.

Couples and solos of all genders welcome!

Learn more about Rock Her World Workshop.

Control & Dominance Moves Workshop

Kinesthetic Rope 2 (A Rope Dojo Elective)
Monday, October 6th, 2014. 7:30PM -10PM
Where: Come As You Are

With Midori
Learn effective rope moves to enhance control. What ever style of bondage or rope play you enjoy, these skills will boost the emotional and psychological intensity. In this hands-on class you’ll practice safe moves that are body-smart for the top side and bottom sides. Whether you enjoy Kinbaku, Shibari, Westen, Predicament, Damsel in Distress, Take-downs or Confrontational play, these techniques will integrate well into your fun!

No experience necessary - You do not need to have taken Kinesthetic Rope 1 or graduated from Rope Dojo - but if you have, this will enhance your continuing education. This Rope Dojo Elective is open to those who play at one or both ends of the rope. You do not have to be a Rope Bondage Dojo graduate to attend. If you’ve not attended, this class will provide excellent foundation for Dojo. More

Wear comfortable clothing and bring two or three length of rope that you usually play with. If you’re not sure, bring two or three lengths of 20 to 30 feet per rope. Some practice ropes will be available to borrow. Yoga mat or towels are suggested but optional.

If you come solo, you’ll be paired with other solos for practice.

Learn more about Control & Dominance Moves Workshop.

Daily Sex Discussion #611: Plane, Train or Automobile Fuck?

Daily Sex Discussion #611

Plane, Train or Automobile—which is your fantasty fuck vehicle?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

There is no Hook-up Culture

Recent research takes another notch out of the credibility of so-called 'hook-up culture.' People are fucking, people are dating, same as it ever was.

Thursday, July 17, 2014

Ducky Doolittle Workshops at Come As You Are

The incomparable Ducky Doolittle returns to Come As You Are in August for a couple of her renowned workshops! You'll want to sign up for this quick folks, they will definitely sell out!

Pop His Rocket Workshop

A Woman's Guide To Handling Your Guy

When: Monday, August 25, 2014. 7:30PM - 9:30PM
Where: Come As You Are
Cost: $35/per person (Sliding Scale is Available)

We'll be straight up with you. This is a blow job class. Super fun and loaded with tips and techniques that will blow his mind. So sit down, prepare to be titillated and have a great time! And while you are there, having a great time talking about blowjobs with Ducky, prepare to be transformed in other ways as well. Because Ducky's seventeen years of sexual research has proven men are sexually deeper and far more beautiful than the world gives them credit for. She'll teach you how to see beyond the B.S. of this Girls Gone Wild world and really connect with your guy.

Expect to learn:

The truth about his pleasure anatomy, including his hottest spots and how to stimulate them.

Tips and techniques that will have him melting in your mouth and in your hands.

Sex secrets and desires guys are too shy to tell you.

How to define what makes you sexy in his eyes and how to amp-up your sex appeal.

Fresh communication techniques that will have him eagerly asking how he can please you in return!

Learn more about Pop His Rocket Workshop. $35.00

 Art Of The Female Orgasm Workshop

The Art of Female Orgasm 

When: Tuesday, August 26, 2014. 7:30PM-9:30PM
Where: Come As You Are
Cost: $35/per person (Sliding Scale is Available)
Oh la la! Women are a deep pool of pleasure and Ducky is here to teach you how to swim! She will demystify the female body, from erogenous zones, to the vulva, clit, G spot, female ejaculation, pelvis muscles and even anal pleasure. Together we'll compare ancient Eastern knowledge, current scientific data, personal discoveries, tips & techniques and send you home with a wealth of orgasmic knowledge and resources. Walk away understanding why some touches deliver amazing stimulation and how to draw deeper orgasmic responses. This workshop is for women and lovers of women.

Expect to learn:

How to have (give) a better orgasm that very night.

How to expand your (her) orgasms, have multiple orgasms or how to orgasm if you never have.

The truth about female ejaculation.

Why a lot of women feel like they have to pee during sex.

The truth about which sex toys will take you (her) over the edge.

Learn more about Art of the Female Orgasm Workshop

Daily Sex Discussion #610: Cum Face?

Daily Sex Discussion #610

Have you seen your own cum face? And if so, did you like it?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Call For Submissions: In Vikings' Arms (updated submission deadline)

Call For Submissions

In Vikings' Arms
Editor: Delilah Devlin
Publisher: Cleis Press
Deadline: July 15, 2014 August 10, 2014
Payment & Rights: $50.00 USD and two copies of the published book upon publication. Contributors retain the rights to their work, although the editor requests the courtesy of authors not republishing their work until at least 6 months after the publication of this anthology

IN VIKINGS' ARMS is open to all authors.

Editor/Author Delilah Devlin is looking for historically-themed stories—centered around the Northmen—for a romantic erotica anthology tentatively entitled IN VIKINGS' ARMS: Erotic Romance for Women.

Let your fantasies run wild to a time when men wearing bear shirts and conical helms captured fierce maiden's hearts! Don't feel you have to restrict your imaginings to any particular era or region—dream about the Rus who served in the Byzantine Varangian Guard; the Northmen bent on plunder for wealth and slaves; Vikings who traded with civilizations as far-flung as Persia; and those intrepid men who settled northern Europe (remember, they founded the city of Dublin!), Iceland, Greenland, and even North America. A few time-travel stories may be considered. And light paranormal is also acceptable.

Delilah will be looking for stories rich in sensory detail that explore women's forbidden desires. For example, a Viking enters a British keep seeking gold and a comely slave. The lady's journey might lead her on a rough sea voyage in a longboat to a cold foreign land. He's expecting a servant; she's determined to make the best of her plight, and despite his fierce appearance and rough ways, she seduces him... Imagine what happens next...

IN VIKINGS' ARMS will seek stories to satisfy the reader who craves the romantic idea of that hard but questing man while exploring stories set in the Dark Ages. Traditional themes/tropes can be used, but writers are encouraged to create tales that surprise. Delilah seeks unique stories from authors with strong voices, and above all, she's looking to be seduced by tales filled with vivid imagery and passion.

Published authors with an established historical world may use that setting for their original short story.

Keeping in mind that this volume is targeted at women, the editor seeks mainly hetero stories, but will consider bisexual or lesbian encounters and polyamorous relationships. This is erotic romance, so don't hold back on the heat. Stories can be vanilla or filled with kink, but don't miss describing the connection between strong-willed individuals learning to trust and love one another. Keep in mind there must be a romantic element with a happy-for-now or happy-ever-after ending. Strong plots, engaging characters, and unique twists are the ultimate goal. Please no reprints. These must be original stories.

How to submit: Prepare your 2,500 to 5,000 words story in a double-spaced, Arial, 12 point, black font Word document with pages numbered (.doc, NOT.docx) OR rich text format. Indent the first line of each paragraph half an inch and double space (regular double spacing, do not add extra lines between paragraphs or do any other irregular spacing). US grammar (double quotation marks around dialogue, etc.) is required.

In your document at the top left of the page, include your legal name (and pseudonym, if applicable), mailing address, and 50 words or less bio in the third person, and send to If you are using a pseudonym, please provide your real name and pseudonym and make it clear which one you'd like to be credited as. Authors may submit up to 2 stories. Delilah hopes to respond with decisions in November 2014. The publisher has final approval over the stories included in the manuscript.

Payment will be $50.00 USD and two copies of the published book upon publication. Contributors retain the rights to their work, although the editor requests the courtesy of authors not republishing their work until at least 6 months after the publication of this anthology.

Ms. Devlin has published over a hundred twenty stories in multiple sub-genres and lengths with Atria/Strebor, Avon, Berkley, Black Lace, Cleis Press, Ellora's Cave, Grand Central, Kensington, Kindle, Montlake Romance, Running Press, and Samhain Publishing. In Fall 2011, she debuted her first anthology with Cleis Press, GIRLS WHO BITE. Since then, she published SHE SHIFTERS, COWBOY LUST, SMOKIN' HOT FIREFIGHTERS, HIGH OCTANE HEROES, and COWBOY HEAT. HOT HIGHLANDERS AND WILD KNIGHTS releases in Fall 2014.

Direct any questions you have regarding your story or the submission process to Delilah at

Couples Being Honest

This is an interesting experiment. The new interactive documentary The And features couples being completely, spontaneously honest with each other. This shouldn't be surprising or shocking, but I bet some of the reactions will be quite remarkable.

Lucky to Be A Guest on The Sexy Librarian Podcast!

Check it out! I had a great time as a guest on Rose Caraway's The Sexy Librarian's Podcast! Rose is a fantastic host—along with all of her amazing skills—and we had a fun time chatting about Best Sex Writing, hanky pins and more. You'll hear that we talk about being able to approach and meet sex community superstars...well, Rose is at the top of the list for me. Rarely have I met someone so welcoming, friendly and whipsmart.

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Curious Study on Why Men Buy Sex

I am curious to read this whole study on why men buy sex because the article about it doesn't portray them in a very positive light.

Daily Sex Discussion #609: Sexiest Hair Colour?

Daily Sex Discussion #609

Do you find one particular hair colour sexiest of all?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

My Next Sex City—Tell Me Something Good Sexy Storytelling Showcase!

We're mixing things up on my next edition of Sex City, so sit back, relax in your favourite comfy spot and listen to some of the finest tales from Tell Me Something Good: Sexy Storytelling Slam!

On Tuesday July 29 Samantha Fraser and Sophie Delancey, co-curators of this monthly storytelling event in Toronto, come on to the show to tell us all about the wide variety of escapades people share, why they share them and how they make a safe, comforting, fun environment for all!

But that's not all! Samantha and Sophie have brought along some of their favourite yarnspinners (and Sex City favourites) Tynan Rhea, Wil Mclean and Elle Chronique to give you a taste of some of the sometimes powerful, sometimes hilarious tales that are told.

Tune in, 11pm – midnight on TUESDAY JULY 29 to CIUT 89.5FM in the Toronto area or stream live online!

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Porn Stars Talk Sex Ed on Sex City!

I was so happy to explore different versions of sex education on this week's Sex City—and with some fantastic guests!

One thing I hope this type of show can do is to throw off stigma and stereotype. That foolish line of thought that purports porn performers to be airheads, fools or unintelligent is so off the mark. Not only are my guests Stoya, jessica drake and Conner Habib brilliant, compassionate, articulate people, but they are just a few. The porn world has a lot to offer—as long was society at large wants to listen.


And don't forget to please donate to CIUT.


I think it is fantastic that this excellent collection has come out in the summer. Can't Get Enough (Cleis Press), with a sexy beach escapade on the cover is the perfect hot weather heat up. I imagine there will be little beads of perspiration rolling down chests as readers dive into the sexy works the incomparable Tenille Brown has assembled. And one of those is “Melanie’s Choice” by Medea Mor, which you can take a taste of here. I won't be enough.

Thirty lashes. That’s what she’d get if Steve caught her in the act. Thirty lashes with an implement of his choice, or fifty if she didn’t tell him and he found out anyway. 
Not that Melanie cared. She’d been horny all day. In the morning, she had woken up with her hand between her thighs, stroking herself without even being aware of it. At work, she’d found herself pressing a highlighter between her legs while drawing up her report, squeezing her thigh muscles around it as if it were a cock ready to invade. Neither action had given her any relief. Nor had it been supposed to, because she didn’t have Steve’s permission to come, not without him present. 
They had rules, he and she. Many rules, the most important one being that Melanie wasn’t allowed to orgasm unless Steve had given her permission to do so. Her orgasms belonged to him, he’d informed her when she had first moved in with him, and seeing as he tended to be generous with them, she seldom felt the need to disobey him. 
Today was an exception, though. Fourteen days without Steve had sorely tested her self-control. Sitting alone on their sofa every night, Melanie had realized just how vital his presence was to her well-being, how lost and restless she felt without him there to add structure to her life and push her buttons. 
As his two weeks’ absence had drawn to a close, she’d grown impatient for his return, and now that it was imminent, the anticipation was positively killing her. And so it was that, when she’d gotten home that night and changed into the skimpy schoolgirl uniform he’d told her to wear on the evening of his return (sans underwear, naturally), she’d found herself gravitating to the black box under the TV, which was innocently labeled DVDs but really contained the majority of their not inconsiderable collection of naughty toys. 
She’d resisted the urge at first. She’d told herself that she could hold out a few more hours, until he stepped through the door and had his wicked way with her. She’d told herself that he wouldn’t have kept her on edge for so long unless he was planning something special upon his return, something that would make the long wait worthwhile. But it was no use. She needed the release, and she needed it now.

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Elust #60

I am honoured to have had my work chosen as one of Molly's Picks!

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Photo courtesy of Chintz Curtain

Welcome to Elust #60 -

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you're looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it'll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #60? Start with the rules, come back August 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Shame Hurts
Of Cocks and Cunts: The Language of Erotica

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

I may never suck another cock, but I'm still
The sofa

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

*You really should consider adding your popular posts here too*

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

My Aftercare
YKINMK but My Kink is Not YOUR Kink either
Nerds, Pervs, and Jeffrey Dahmer
Sex Is Simple. That's Why It's So Complicated
Cuckolding. The Step Child of BDSM?
What Is A Man's Role At A CFNM?
Happily whipping Jesus What are your views on the ethics of kink?
FetLife and The Single Gal
How Porn and BDSM Helped Me

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Tall guys! You're a bunch of sick perverts!
In Which I Fuck Up and My Uterus Saves Me
Why Is There So Much Shame?
Birds do it, Bees do it...
Little Lower Layer
Wooing, pursuing, romancing a dominant woman
Sexual Freedom. Why Do I Feel I Need to Hide.
Our Age Gap Shouldn't Be Your Insecurity
Advanced kegel: stroking with only PC muscles
Impress your lover with these oral sex moves

Sex News,Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

The Hashtag Activism...It Burns It!
Sex Worker Etiquette
Rant Break: SCOTUS and Hobby Lobby Rage
Subs Need Classes Too!

Erotic Fiction

A Flight Attendants Secret
Festival car park fun
Private Performance
And The Band Played On
Consequences Part One


A warning for erotic writers and sex bloggers
Bloggy, Soggy, and Sexy

Erotic Non-Fiction

Don't Ever Make Me Wait Again


Satan's String - a Lusty Limerick

Writing About Writing

Writing Erotica for Trans Readers Pt 1

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Daily Sex Discussion #608: Your Sexiest Part?

Daily Sex Discussion #608

What do you consider your sexiest body part?

Reply with your response to #DailySexDiscussion

Fetishes, Sun, Sex and Samba Lessons

Lazy Hazy Days of Summer

Events This Week at the Oasis

More R&R

You can now enjoy more sun tanning poolside, playtime, etc. as Oasis Aqualounge will be open on Tuesdays from 11:00 am- 3:00 am! Single men, women and couples welcome. Single men/couples $50, women are free.

Attention Smokers:

A new Ontario by-law will be changing the areas in which smoking is permitted. Effective immediately, Oasis Aqualounge will only allow smoking in the alcove area beside/behind the cabana. Signage will be available both outside and throughout the club. We apologize for any inconvenience this may cause but by law, we under the obligation to enforce it. We appreciate your cooperation.

Events at a Glance

Tonight's Hot Ticket: Tuesday July 15 -CFNM (Everyone welcome)

Wednesday July 16 -Hot Springs featuring Sybian Night
& Sweet Cherry Picnic Promo (Everyone welcome)

Thursday July 17 -First Taste (Couples & women only)

Friday July 18 -Fetish Friday (Couples & women only)

Saturday July 19 -Sun, Samba & Sex (Couples & women only)

Sunday July 20 -Staycation Sunday (Couples & women only)
& Genesis Fetish Party (Private event, see Oasis website for details)

Monday July 21 -Sass After Class featuting The Right Approach
(35 yrs & younger; single men, women & couples)

It's Better Down Where its Wetter Oasis Blog

Tonight's fun and flirty theme was hosted by the lovely Miss F with special guest "mermaid" Fionna Flauntit. Throughout the evening guests were encouraged to take raffle tickets, the prizes included "pearl" kegel balls sponsored by DNA Toys and one gift certificate towards a "float" from Float Toronto as the grand prize.


FYI -Filming on Friday

On Friday July 18th, a film crew will be filming a short scene on the main floor of the club for an upcoming documentary film entitled 'My Friend Tommy.'

Last month, Oasis Aqualounge held a car wash to help raise money for this project, which is about a local 35 year old virgin embarking on a road trip, in hopes of expanding his sexual and social experiences. Click here for 'My Friend Tommy' trailor.

The crew will arrive at 4:00pm and will be under the supervision of staff, to ensure the safety and comfort of the guests. The cameras will be focused solely on the actor and will not involve any guests of the club. This will take place for only a few hours and once completed, the film crew will leave the premises.

Any concerns/questions may be directed to

Weekend Highlight

Sun, Samba & Sex

Saturday July 19

It’s time to celebrate the sunshine with a little samba and of course a little sex! Today Oasis features two Samba workshops, one in the afternoon and another in the evening.

Samba Workshop with instructor Agatha Frisky 3:00 pm-4:00 pm poolside:
Ladies (and gents!) put some wiggle in your walk and some giggle in your jiggle in this one hour homage to the boom boom booty! Learn the basic footwork of Samba, some fun and sexy body movement as we revel in the samba rhythm. Bring some flat shoes, water, sunscreen and a hat!Workshop $15 per person, cash only please (given to the instructor at the time of the workshop).
lease RSVP if you plan on attending the afternoon workshop with Agatha Frisky, email our Marketing Coordinator Holly *Please note “Afternoon Samba Workshop” in the subject.

We have an additional evening Samba class taught by Samba Jess from 9:30 pm-10:30 pm in the Oasis dungeon. Intro to Brazilian Samba: In this workshop you will learn the fundamentals of Brazilian Samba. The main focus will be on exposing you to the various sounds of the music, body movements, foot-work, flow and most importantly Samba's expression.
Workshop $15 per person, cash only please (given to the instructor at the time of the workshop).
Please RSVP if you plan on attending the evening workshop with Agatha Frisky, email our Marketing Coordinator Holly at *Please note “Evening Samba Workshop” in the subject.

Stick around for Samba Jess’s featured performance with Oasis owner Jana on the main floor at11:30 pm! Club hours 11:00 am-3:00 am. Couples & women only please.

Weekly Favourites & More

The Hottest Hump Day in TO!

Hot Springs featuring Sybian Night & Sweet Cherry Picnic Promo

Wednesday July 16

Celebrate hump day the Oasis way! Hang out poolside, meet new friends and more!
-DJ Ella Vation spins the sexiest tunes from10:00 pm until late.
-Massage available in the evenings for only a $1/minute (suggested time: 20 minutes).
-DM (Dungeon Monitor) available 7:00 pm to 1:00 am in the dungeon.

Tonight's special features:
The Sybian Returns!
Starting at 8:00 pm, the Sybian will be featured in the dungeon. Guests may use this glorious machine with assistance from Wil (Sybian Toronto). He's skilled at the controls and adheres to strict guidelines of hygiene and cleanliness. This feature will be free of charge to those who are interested in experiencing the Sybian.

Sweet Cherry Picnic Promo

Tonight we're promoting our annual Cherry Beach customer appreciation picnic on July 26th. We want to get you excited about this picnic and our lovely promotional models will be on hand, offering sweet cherry goodies, playing games and creating some hype around this much anticipated annual summer event!

Taste some forbidden fruit, get inspired by summer and ‘pop your picnic cherry!’

Single Gentlemen and couples-$50. Always free for single women. Oasis Aqualounge is open from 11:00 am-3:00 am. Wristbands given at pay station allow in and out privileges.

*Single men must be chaperoned by another female or couple in order to visit the third floor playrooms. Everyone has accessibility to the spa facilities, main floor, dungeon and outdoor pool.

First Taste

Thursday July 17

Interested in enhancing the intimacy in your relationship? Curious about what Oasis Aqualounge has to offer?

Join an Oasis Aqualounge representative every 1st and 3rd Thursday for First Taste at 8:00pm. Enjoy a drink, receive a tour of the venue and participate in a Q&A period from experienced members.

M/F Couples- $20 (tour & Q&A), $60 additional to stay afterwards or receive a $20 voucher to return another night. Single women may receive a free tour, $20 to stay. Couples and women only.

Oasis Aqualounge will be open from 11:00 am-3:00 am.

Fetish Friday

Friday July 18

Get your kink on! Fetish Friday returns, every third Friday monthly at Oasis Aqualounge. Fetish Friday is the longest running fetish night at Oasis, hosted by Northbound Leather. Join us in the dungeon, play upstairs or take a dip in the pool. Party starts at 9:00 pm-3:00 am. Oasis Aqualounge will be open from11:00 am-3:00 am for women and couples.

Staycation Sunday & Genesis Fetish Party

Sunday July 20

Daytime: The perfect destination getaway right in the heart of the city! Indulge in paradise without having to pack a suitcase. Oasis offers a beautiful outdoor pool in a private court yard where you can swim, sip a cocktail and soak up some rays. The indoor hot tub, sauna and upper floor themed play rooms are available for even more indulgence. Couples and women only please. Club open 11:00 am-7:00 pm. Couples $50, ladies $20.

Evening: Genesis Fetish Party returns the third Sunday of every month! Genesis Fetish Party is an inclusive party for people who would like to engage in their kinks, fetishes, and sexuality. The pricing for Genesis parties is different from the typical Oasis Aqualounge nights. For more details and for this month’s theme, check out

*Please note that the Genesis Fetish Party event does not accept the pre-pay option. You can register at or pay at the door. Attendance for single males & couples will be $25 with advance registration & $40 at the door. Attendance for single females will be $10 with advance registration & $30 at the door.

Post Weekend Fun

Sass After Class featuring The Right Approach

Monday July 21

Sass After Class is an event for students to come and enjoy Oasis Aqualounge at a more wallet friendly rate. Come out and relax by the pool, spin on the poles, or swing in the dungeon.

Tonight's Special Feature:

The Right Approach is a simple and light-hearted workshop designed to instruct on proper bathhouse etiquette and negotiations around play.

Join Miss F at 10:00 pm in the dungeon and learn some do’s, don’t’s and suggestions on how to meet, socialize and play with guests at Oasis Aqualounge. Workshop is free with admission to Sass After Class. Ages: 19-35 years please.

Women $5, men 35 and under with student ID $20, men 35 and under without $50. Couples w/student ID-$25 (male must have ID). Oasis Aqualounge will be open from 11:00 am-3:00 pm.

See You in September!

Sapphic Aquatica will be returning as a bi-monthly event, starting Sunday September 28th. This event is exclusive to women/trans people and welcomes all women to explore their sexuality, socialize and swim in a safe, sex/body-positive environment. Watch for upcoming workshops, performers, games, prizes and more!

Cis men are unable to attend Sapphic Aquatica but may return to Oasis Aqualounge during Tuesdays/Wednesdays, during the week.

2015 Staff Calendar

Oasis Aqualounge is putting together another staff calendar for 2015! This project will showcase the diverse and sexy events held at the club and will feature our wonderful staff. In anticipation of the calendar launch in September 2014, we wanted to offer you a 'behind the scenes' view of the photo shoots that have recently occurred. It is just a little taste of the exciting dish to come-stay tuned for more updates this month!

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